FIRST AMENDMENT TO
                              AMENDED AND RESTATED
                          AGREEMENT AND PLAN OF MERGER


      FIRST AMENDMENT TO AMENDED AND RESTATED AGREEMENT AND PLAN OF MERGER
dated  April  18,  2000  (this  "Amendment"),   among  CAPITAL  SENIOR  LIVING
CORPORATION,   a  Delaware   corporation   ("CSLC");   CAPITAL  SENIOR  LIVING
ACQUISITION,   LLC,  a  Delaware  limited  liability   company,   all  of  the
outstanding  membership  interests in which are  wholly-owned by CSLC ("Sub");
and ILM II SENIOR  LIVING,  INC.,  a  Virginia  finite-life  corporation  (the
"Company").

                              W I T N E S S E T H :
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      WHEREAS, CSLC, Sub and the Company entered into an Amended and Restated
Agreement and Plan of Merger dated October 19, 1999 (the "Original Agreement");

      WHEREAS, the parties to the Original Agreement desire to amend certain
terms of the Original Agreement as hereinafter set forth;

      WHEREAS, the respective Boards of Directors of CSLC and the Company have
determined that it is fair to and in the best interests of their respective
stockholders to consummate the acquisition of the Company by CSLC, by means of a
cash out merger of the Company with and into Sub, upon the terms and subject to
the conditions set forth in the Original Agreement as amended by this Amendment
(the "Merger");

      WHEREAS, the respective Boards of Directors of CSLC and the Company, and
CSLC as sole member of Sub, have approved the Merger and the Original Agreement
as amended by this Amendment and the transactions contemplated hereby and
thereby;

      NOW, THEREFORE, in consideration of the mutual premises and the
representations,  warranties,  agreements and covenants herein contained,  the
parties hereto, intending to be legally bound, hereby agree as follows:

      1. The Original Agreement is hereby amended as follows:

         (a) The Merger Consideration set forth in Section 2.1(c) of the
Original Agreement is hereby amended by deleting the number "$14.471836" and
inserting in its place $13.041483";

         (b) The termination fee (to CSLC) set forth in both the second and
third paragraphs of Section 5.6(b) of the Original Agreement is hereby amended
by deleting the number "$2,964,400" in each of such second and third paragraphs
and inserting in its place "$1,858,200";




         (c) The tern4nation fee (to the Company) set forth in Section 5.6(e) of
The Original Agreement is hereby amended by deleting the number "$850,000" and
inserting in its place "$1,540,000";

         (d) Section 3.1(m) of the Original Agreement is hereby amended by
deleting therefrom the words "October 6, 1999" and inserting is their place
"April 17, 2000."

         (e) Section 3.2(j) of the Original Agreement is hereby amended by
deleting the provisions thereof in their entirety and inserting in their place;

            "(j)  Receipt of Financing  Commitment.  CSLC has paid
            for and  obtained,  and  heretofore  has  provided the
            Company  with  true and  complete  executed  copies of
            that  certain  commitment  letter  of GMAC  Commercial
            Mortgage  Corporation  ("GMAC") dated  April 14,  2000
            and  addressed  to CSLC,  pursuant  to which  GMAC has
            committed,   upon  the  terms  and   subject   to  the
            conditions  specified  therein,  to provide to CSLC an
            aggregate  sum in  cash  which,  together  with  funds
            segregated  by CSLC,  will be  sufficient in amount to
            pay,  in full at the  Effective  Time,  but not  later
            than July 31, 2000,  to the holders of Company  Common
            Stock,    the   Exchange    Funds   (the    "Financing
            Commitment")."

         (f) Section 5.6(c) of the Original Agreement is hereby amended by
deleting the second sentence thereof in its entirety.

         (g) Section 5.17 of the Original Agreement is hereby amended by
deleting the provisions thereof in their entirety.

         (h) Section 6.3(d) of the Original Agreement is hereby amended by
deleting the provisions thereof in their entirety and inserting in their place,

            (d) payment of Exchange Funds. CSLC shall have
            received the proceeds of the Financing Commitment,  or
            otherwise  shall  have  obtained  and  segregated  for
            payment to the Company  sufficient  cash funds, to pay
            in full at the  Effective  Time to the  holders of the
            Company Common Stock, the Exchange Funds."

         (i) All references to the Original Agreement shall hereafter
refer to the Original Agreement as amended by this Amendment.

      2. Except as amended is this Amendment, the Original Agreement remains in
full force and effect. All capitalized terms used in this Amendment which are
not otherwise defined in this Amendment shall be as defined in the Original
Agreement.

      3. This Amendment may be executed in one or more counterparts (including
by facsimile transmission), all of which shall be considered one and the same
agreement and shall



become effective when one or more counterparts have been signed by all of the
parties hereto and delivered to the other parties; it being hereby understood
that all parties need not sign the same counterpart.

      IN WITNESS WHEREOF, CSLC, Sub, and the Company have caused this
Agreement to be executed and delivered by their respective  officers thereunto
duly authorized, all on this 18th day of April 2000.

                                CAPITAL SENIOR LIVING CORPORATION

                                By:  /s/JAMES A. STROUD
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                                Name:   JAMES A. STROUD
                                Title:  Chairman of the Company


                                CAPITAL SENIOR LIVING ACQUISITION, LLC

                                By:  /s/LAWRENCE A. COHEN
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                                Name:   LAWRENCE A. COHEN
                                Title:  Chief Executive Officer


                                ILM II SENIOR LIVING, INC.

                                By:    /s/J. WILLIAM SHARMAN, JR.
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                                Name:     J. WILLIAM SHARMAN, JR.
                                Title:    Chairman of the Board of Directors,
                                          President and Chief Executive Officer