FIRST AMENDMENT TO
                              AMENDED AND RESTATED
                          AGREEMENT AND PLAN OF MERGER

      FIRST AMENDMENT TO AMENDED AND RESTATED AGREEMENT AND PLAN OF MERGER dated
April 18, 2000 (this "Amendment"), among CAPITAL SENIOR LIVING CORPORATION, a
Delaware corporation ("CSLC"); CAPITAL SENIOR LIVING ACQUISITION, LLC, a
Delaware limited liability company, all of the outstanding membership interests
in which are wholly-owned by CSLC ("Sub"); and ILM SENIOR LIVING, INC., a
Virginia finite-life corporation (the "Company").


                            W I T N E S S E T H:
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      WHEREAS, CSLC, Sub and the Company entered into an Amended and Restated
Agreement and Plan of Merger dated October 19, 1999 (the "Original Agreement");

      WHEREAS, the parties to the Original Agreement desire to amend certain
terms of the Original Agreement as hereinafter set forth;

      WHEREAS, the respective Boards of Directors of CSLC and the Company have
determined that it is fair to and in the best interests of their respective
stockholders to consummate the acquisition of the Company by CSLC, by means of a
cash out merger of the Company with and into Sub, upon the terms and subject to
the conditions set forth in the Original Agreement as amended by this Amendment
(the "Merger");

      WHEREAS, the respective Boards of Directors of CSLC and the Company, and
CSLC as sole member of Sub, have approved the Merger and the Original Agreement
as amended by this Amendment and the transactions contemplated hereby and
thereby;

      NOW, THEREFORE, in consideration of the mutual premises and the
representations, warranties, agreements and covenants herein contained, the
parties hereto, intending to be legally bound, hereby agree as follows:

      1.    The Original Agreement is hereby amended as follows:

            (a) The Merger Consideration set forth in Section 2.1(c) of the
Original Agreement is hereby amended by deleting the number "$12.901158" and
inserting in its place "$11.626042";

            (b) The termination fee (to CSLC) set forth in both the second and
third paragraphs of Section 5.6(b) of the Original Agreement is hereby amended
by deleting the number "$3,835,600" in each of such second and third paragraphs
and inserting in its place "$2,404,300";





            (c) The termination fee (to the Company) set forth in Section 5.6(e)
of the Original Agreement is hereby amended by deleting the number "$850,000"
and inserting in its place "$1,540,000";

            (d) Section 3.1(m) of the Original Agreement is hereby amended by
deleting therefrom the words "October 6, 1999" and inserting in their place
"April 17, 2000."

            (e) Section 3.2(j) of the Original Agreement is hereby amended by
deleting the provisions thereof in their entirety and inserting in their place;

            "(j) Receipt of Financing Commitment. CSLC has paid for and
            obtained, and heretofore has provided the Company with true and
            complete executed copies of, that certain commitment letter of GMAC
            Commercial Mortgage Corporation ("GMAC") dated April 14, 2000 and
            addressed to CSLC, pursuant to which GMAC has committed, upon the
            terms and subject to the conditions specified therein, to provide to
            CSLC an aggregate sum in cash which, together with funds segregated
            by CSLC, will be sufficient in amount to pay, in full at the
            Effective Time, but not later than July 31, 2000, to the holders of
            Company Common Stock, the Exchange Funds (the "Financing
            Commitment")."

            (f) Section 5.6(c) of the Original Agreement is hereby amended by
deleting the second sentence thereof in its entirety.

            (g) Section 5.17 of the Original Agreement is hereby amended by
deleting the provisions thereof in their entirety.

            (h) Section 6.3(d) of the Original Agreement is hereby amended by
deleting the provisions thereof in their entirety and inserting in their place;

            "(d) Payment of Exchange Funds. CSLC shall have received the
            proceeds of the Financing Commitment, or otherwise shall have
            obtained and segregated for payment to the Company sufficient cash
            funds, to pay in full at the Effective Time to the holders of the
            Company Common Stock, the Exchange Funds."

            (i) All references to the Original Agreement shall hereafter refer
to the Original Agreement as amended by this Amendment.

      2. Except as amended in this Amendment, the Original Agreement remains in
full force and effect. All capitalized terms used in this Amendment which are
not otherwise defined in this Amendment shall be as defined in the Original
Agreement.


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      3. This Amendment may be executed one or more counterparts (including by
facsimile transmission), all of which shall be considered one and the same
agreement and shall become effective when one or more counterparts have been
signed by all of the parties hereto and delivered to the other parties; it being
hereby understood that all parties need not sign the same counterpart.

      IN WITNESS WHEREOF, CSLC, Sub, and the Company have caused this Agreement
to be executed and delivered by their respective officers thereunto duly
authorized, all on this 18th day of April, 2000.

                            CAPITAL SENIOR LIVING CORPORATION

                            By:    /s/JAMES A. STROUD
                                    -----------------------------------------
                            Name:     JAMES A. STROUD
                            Title:    Chairman of the Company

                            CAPITAL SENIOR LIVING ACQUISITION, LLC

                            By:    /s/LAWRENCE A. COHEN
                                    -----------------------------------------
                            Name:     LAWRENCE A. COHEN
                            Title:    Chief Executive Officer

                            ILM SENIOR LIVING, INC.

                            By:     /s/J. WILLIAM SHARMAN, JR.
                                    -----------------------------------------
                            Name:      J. WILLIAM SHARMAN, JR.
                            Title:     Chairman  of the  Board of Directors,
                                       President and Chief Executive Officer



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