January 2, 2004



Dear Fellow Stockholders:

     On  behalf  of the  Board of  Directors  and  management  of Sound  Federal
Bancorp,  Inc.,  (the  "Company")  we  cordially  invite you to attend a Special
Meeting of Stockholders.  The meeting will be at the Company's corporate offices
at 1311 Mamaroneck  Avenue,  White Plains,  New York 10605 at 3:00 p.m.,  (local
time) on February 4, 2004.

     We encourage  you to attend the meeting in person.  Whether or not you plan
to attend,  however, please read the enclosed proxy statement and then complete,
sign  and  date the  enclosed  proxy  card  and  return  it in the  accompanying
postage-paid  return  envelope  as  promptly  as  possible.  This  will  save us
additional  expense in  soliciting  proxies and will ensure that your shares are
represented at the special meeting.

     The enclosed  Notice of Special  Meeting and Proxy  Statement  describe the
formal business to be transacted at the special meeting.  The special meeting is
being held so that  stockholders  may vote for the adoption of the Sound Federal
Bancorp, Inc. 2004 Incentive Stock Benefit Plan.

     Your Board of Directors has determined  that the matter to be considered at
the special meeting is in the best interests of Sound Federal Bancorp,  Inc. and
its stockholders. For the reasons set forth in the proxy statement, the Board of
Directors unanimously  recommends a vote "For" the approval of the Sound Federal
Bancorp, Inc. 2004 Incentive Stock Benefit Plan.


Sincerely,


/s/ Richard p. McStravick
- ---------------------------
Richard P. McStravick
President and Chief Executive Officer





                           Sound Federal Bancorp, Inc.
                             1311 Mamaroneck Avenue
                                    Suite 190
                          White Plains, New York 10605
                                 (914) 761-3636


                    NOTICE OF SPECIAL MEETING OF STOCKHOLDERS
                         To Be Held On February 4, 2004

     Notice is hereby given that the Special  Meeting of Sound Federal  Bancorp,
Inc. (the  "Company")  will be held at the Company's  corporate  offices at 1311
Mamaroneck  Avenue,  White Plains,  New York 10605,  on February 4, 2004 at 3:00
p.m., local time.

     A Proxy Card and a Proxy Statement for the Special Meeting are enclosed.

     The Special Meeting is for the purpose of considering and acting upon:

     1.   Approval of the Sound  Federal  Bancorp,  Inc.  2004  Incentive  Stock
          Benefit Plan; and

     2.   Such other matters as may properly come before the Special Meeting, or
          any adjournments thereof.

     The Board of  Directors  is not aware of any other  business to come before
the Special Meeting.

     Any action may be taken on the foregoing  proposals at the Special  Meeting
on the date  specified  above,  or on any date or  dates  to which  the  Special
Meeting  may be  adjourned.  Stockholders  of record at the close of business on
December 17, 2003 are the stockholders  entitled to vote at the Special Meeting,
and any adjournments thereof.

     A list of  stockholders  entitled  to vote at the Special  Meeting  will be
available at the Company's  corporate office located at 1311 Mamaroneck  Avenue,
White Plains,  New York 10605 for the 10 days  immediately  prior to the Special
Meeting. It also will be available for inspection at the meeting itself.

     Each stockholder, whether he or she plans to attend the Special Meeting, is
requested to sign,  date and return the enclosed proxy card without delay in the
enclosed  postage-paid  envelope.  Any  proxy  given by the  stockholder  may be
revoked  at any time  before it is  exercised.  A proxy may be revoked by filing
with the Secretary of the Company a written  revocation or a duly executed proxy
bearing a later date. Any stockholder  present at the Special Meeting may revoke
his or her proxy and vote  personally on each matter  brought before the Special
Meeting.  However,  if you are a stockholder  whose shares are not registered in
your own name, you will need additional documentation from your record holder in
order to vote personally at the special meeting.

                                              By Order of the Board of Directors



                                              /s/ Anthony J. Fabiano
                                              ---------------------------
                                              Anthony J. Fabiano
                                              Corporate Secretary

White Plains, New York
January 2, 2004


IMPORTANT:  A  SELF-ADDRESSED  ENVELOPE IS  ENCLOSED  FOR YOUR  CONVENIENCE.  NO
POSTAGE IS REQUIRED IF MAILED WITHIN THE UNITED STATES.







                                 PROXY STATEMENT

                           Sound Federal Bancorp, Inc.
                             1311 Mamaroneck Avenue
                                    Suite 190
                          White Plains, New York 10605
                                 (914) 761-3636



                         SPECIAL MEETING OF STOCKHOLDERS

                                February 4, 2004


     This Proxy  Statement is furnished in connection  with the  solicitation of
proxies on behalf of the Board of Directors of Sound Federal Bancorp,  Inc. (the
"Company") to be used at the Special Meeting of Stockholders of the Company (the
"Special  Meeting"),  which will be held at the Company's  corporate  offices at
1311  Mamaroneck  Avenue,  White Plains,  New York 10605, on February 4, 2004 at
3:00 p.m., local time, and any adjournment  thereof.  The accompanying Notice of
Special Meeting of Stockholders  and this Proxy Statement are first being mailed
to stockholders on or about January 2, 2004.


                              REVOCATION OF PROXIES


     Stockholders  who execute  proxies in the form solicited  hereby retain the
right to revoke  them in the manner  described  below.  Unless so  revoked,  the
shares  represented by such proxies will be voted at the Special Meeting and all
adjournments  thereof.  Proxies solicited on behalf of the Board of Directors of
the Company will be voted in accordance with the directions given thereon. Where
no  instructions  are  indicated,  proxies  will be voted "FOR" the proposal set
forth in this Proxy Statement for consideration at the Special Meeting.

     In accordance  with the bylaws of the Company,  the business of the Special
Meeting is limited to the  proposal  described in this proxy  statement.  In the
event there are not  sufficient  votes for a quorum,  or to approve the proposal
being presented,  at the time of the Special Meeting, the Special Meeting may be
adjourned in order to permit the further solicitation of proxies.

     Proxies may be revoked by sending  written notice of such revocation to the
Secretary of the Company, at the address of the Company shown above, executing a
later-dated proxy or by attending the Special Meeting and voting in person.  The
presence at the Special  Meeting of any  stockholder who had given a proxy shall
not revoke  such  proxy  unless the  stockholder  delivers  his or her ballot in
person at the Special Meeting or delivers a written  revocation to the Secretary
of the Company prior to the voting of such proxy.


                 VOTING SECURITIES AND PRINCIPAL HOLDERS THEREOF


     Holders of record of the Company's  common stock,  par value $.01 per share
(the  "Common  Stock"),  as of the close of business  on December  17, 2003 (the
"Record  Date") are  entitled  to one vote for each  share then held.  As of the
Record  Date,  the  Company had  12,818,133  shares of Common  Stock  issued and
outstanding. The presence in person or by proxy of a majority of the outstanding
shares of Common Stock  entitled to vote is necessary to  constitute a quorum at
the Special Meeting. As to the approval of the Sound Federal Bancorp,  Inc. 2004
Incentive Stock Benefit Plan,  stockholders  may vote (i) "FOR"  approval,  (ii)
"AGAINST" approval, or (iii) "ABSTAIN" from voting on the proposal. The approval
of the Sound Federal  Bancorp,  Inc. 2004  Incentive  Stock Benefit Plan must be
approved by a majority of the shares voted at the Special Meeting without regard
to broker non-votes or proxies marked "ABSTAIN."

     In accordance  with the provisions of the Certificate of  Incorporation  of
the Company,  record holders of Common Stock who  beneficially  own in excess of
10% of the outstanding  shares of Common Stock (the "Limit") are not entitled to
any vote with respect to the shares held in excess of the Limit.  The  Company's
Certificate of  Incorporation  authorizes the Board of Directors (i) to make all
determinations necessary to implement and apply the Limit, including determining
whether  persons or entities are acting in concert,  and (ii) to demand that any
person who is  reasonably  believed to  beneficially  own stock in excess of the
Limit  supply  information  to the Company to enable the Board of  Directors  to
implement and apply the Limit.

     Persons and groups who  beneficially  own in excess of five  percent of the
Common  Stock are  required to file  certain  reports  with the  Securities  and
Exchange  Commission ("SEC") regarding such ownership pursuant to the Securities
Exchange Act of 1934 (the "Exchange Act").

     The following table sets forth, as of the Record Date, the shares of Common
Stock beneficially owned by named executive officers and directors individually,
by executive  officers  and  directors as a group and by each person who was the
beneficial owner of more than five percent of the Company's  outstanding  shares
of Common Stock on the Record Date.





                                                      Amount of Shares                   Percent of Shares
        Name and Address of                           Owned and Nature                   of Common Stock
          Beneficial Owner                        of Beneficial Ownership(4)             Outstanding (2)(3)

Significant Shareholders:
                                                                                       
  Sound Federal Savings Employee Stock
  Ownership Plan and Trust
  1311 Mamaroneck Avenue
  White Plains, New York 10605                            1,125,421                               8.4%

Named Directors and Executive Officers:(1)

Bruno J. Gioffre                                            225,361                               1.8

Richard P. McStravick                                       267,887                               2.1

Roberta I. Bernhardt                                            500                              --

Joseph Dinolfo                                              117,781                               0.9

Donald H. Heithaus                                          131,404                               1.0

Joseph A. Lanza                                              98,455                               0.8

Eldorus Maynard                                              45,434                               0.4

James Staudt                                                 75,101                               0.6

Samuel T. Telerico                                              530                              --

Anthony J. Fabiano                                          149,498                               1.2
                                                            -------                             -----

All executive officers and directors
  as a group (9 persons)                                    1,111,921                             8.3%
                                                            =========                           =====


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(1)  The Company's  executive officers and directors are also executive officers
     and directors of Sound Federal Savings (the "Bank").
(2)  Includes  14,575  shares  awarded to each outside  director  other than Ms.
     Bernhardt,  Mr. Telerico and Mr.  Maynard,  58,100 shares and 38,733 shares
     awarded to Messrs.  McStravick and Fabiano,  respectively,  pursuant to the
     Company's  Recognition  and Retention  Plan.  Also includes  51,185 shares,
     119,270  shares,  and 98,670  shares for Messrs.  Gioffre,  McStravick  and
     Fabiano,  respectively,  and  38,735  shares  each  for  Messrs.  Heithaus,
     Dinolfo,  Lanza and Staudt  subject to options  pursuant  to the  Company's
     Stock Option Plan.
(3)  Calculated as a percentage of common shares  outstanding plus stock options
     that are exercisable within 60 days.
(4)  Unless  otherwise  indicated,  each person  effectively  exercises sole (or
     shared with spouse) voting and dispositive power as to the shares reported.

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                             STOCK PERFORMANCE GRAPH

     Set forth below is a stock  performance  graph  comparing  the yearly total
return on the  Company's  Common  Stock with (a) the  monthly  cumulative  total
return on stocks  included in the Nasdaq  Composite  Index,  and (b) the monthly
cumulative total return on stocks for federal savings  institutions  included in
the Company's Standard Industry Code ("SIC") Index. The Company first issued its
Common Stock on October 8, 1998. Accordingly, the information presented below is
for the period beginning with the closing price of the Company's Common Stock on
October 8, 1998, its first trading day and ending on March 31, 2003.  Cumulative
return assumes the reinvestment of dividends,  and is expressed in dollars on an
assumed initial investment of $100.

     There  can be no  assurance  that  the  Company's  stock  performance  will
continue in the future with the same or similar trend depicted in the graph. The
Company will not make or endorse any predictions as to future stock performance.






[OBJECT OMITTED]









                                                                    Period Ending
                                       ------------------------------------------------------------------------
                Index                  10/08/98    03/31/99     03/31/00    03/31/01    03/31/02    03/31/03
                -----
                                       ----------- ------------ ----------- ----------- ----------- -----------
                                                                                    
Sound Federal Bancorp, Inc.              100.00      107.35       110.23      139.26      227.67      532.42
SIC  Code  6035  -  Federal   Savings
Institutions                             100.00      107.56       87.49       137.65      163.70      174.38
Nasdaq Market Index                      100.00      145.24       267.45      110.08      111.45      81.74


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                             EXECUTIVE COMPENSATION


     The  following  table  sets  forth  information  as  to  annual  and  other
compensation  for services in all capacities  for executive  officers who earned
more than $100,000 in salary and bonuses  during the fiscal year ended March 31,
2003.




==================================================================================================================================
                                                   Summary Compensation Table
==================================================================================================================================
                             Annual Compensation                                            Long-Term
                                                                                       Compensation Awards
- ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ---------------------------------- ---------------
- -------------------------- ----------- ------------- --------- ---------------- ------------- ---------- ---------
        Name and           Fiscal         Salary      Bonus         Other        Restricted   Options/     LTIP      All Other
                                                                   Annual
                                                                Compensation       Stock        SARs                Compensation
   Principal Position         Year         ($)         ($)         ($) (1)      Award(s) ($)     (#)     Payouts      ($) (2)
- -------------------------- ----------- ------------- --------- ---------------- ------------- ---------- --------- ---------------
                                                                                               
Richard P. McStravick         2003       185,171      10,700       27,200           --           --        --            3,942
President and Chief           2002       171,875      12,000       18,500           --           --        --            3,800
Executive Officer             2001       155,690       9,000       18,675           --           --        --            3,718
- -------------------------- ----------- ------------- --------- ---------------- ------------- ---------- --------- ---------------
Anthony J.  Fabiano           2003       148,250      12,000         --             --           --        --           --
Senior Vice President,        2002       124,500       9,000         --             --           --        --           --
Chief Financial Officer       2001       106,167       7,800         --             --           --        --           --
and Corporate Secretary
========================== =========== ============= ========= ================ ============= ========== ========= ===============


(1)  Represents director's fees for service on the Company's and Bank's Board of
     Directors. (2) Consists of the use of the Bank's automobile.

Compensation Committee Interlocks and Insider Participation

     The Company does not  independently  compensate  its executive  officers or
employees. The Executive Committee of Sound Federal Savings (the "Bank") has the
primary responsibility for determining  compensation of the officers,  directors
and  employees  of the Bank.  The  Executive  Committee  consists  of  Directors
Gioffre,  Heithaus,  Dinolfo,  Staudt and  McStravick.  The Executive  Committee
reviews the benefits  provided to the Bank's officers and employees.  During the
year ended March 31, 2003 the Executive Committee met three times.

Report of the Compensation Committee

     Under  rules  established  by the SEC,  the  Company is required to provide
certain data and information regarding the compensation and benefits provided to
the  Company's  Chief  Executive  Officer  and other  executive  officers of the
Company.  The disclosure  requirements for the Chief Executive Officer and other
executive  officers  include  the use of  tables  and a  report  explaining  the
rationale and  considerations  that led to  fundamental  executive  compensation
decisions  affecting  those  individuals.  In fulfilling this  requirement,  the
Executive Committee of the Bank, at the direction of the Board of Directors, has
prepared the following report for inclusion in this proxy statement.

     The Board has delegated to the Executive  Committee the  responsibility  of
assuring  that  the  compensation  of the  Chief  Executive  Officer  and  other
executive  officers is consistent with the  compensation  strategy,  competitive
practices,   performance  of  the  Bank  and  the  requirements  of  appropriate
regulatory  agencies.  Only  non-employee  directors  who serve on the Executive
Committee  participate  in  executive  compensation  decision  making.  Any cash
compensation  paid to executive  officers is paid by the Bank.  The Company does
not currently pay any cash compensation to executive officers.

     Compensation of senior  management is reviewed  annually on a calendar-year
basis. In general,  the purpose of the annual  compensation  review is to ensure
that the Bank's base salary levels are competitive  with financial  institutions
similar in size, geographic market and business profile in order for the Bank to
attract  and retain  persons of high  quality.  In this  regard,  the  Executive
Compensation  Committee  used  various  informational  sources,   including  the
"Savings and Community Bankers Annual Salary Survey." In addition, the Executive

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Compensation  Committee considers the overall  profitability of the Bank and the
executive officer's contribution to the Bank when making its decision.

     The  Board  of  Directors  approved  a base  salary  for the  Bank's  Chief
Executive  Officer of $205,000  for fiscal year 2003,  which  represented  a 15%
increase from the Chief  Executive  Officer's  base salary of $177,650 in fiscal
year 2002.  The 2003 base  salary was based upon the Chief  Executive  Officer's
performance,   industry  standards,   and  the  successful   completion  of  the
second-step conversion.

     The primary goal of the Bank and its  Executive  Committee is to provide an
adequate level of  compensation  and benefits in order to attract and retain key
executives.  The  performance of each officer is reviewed  annually to determine
his or her contribution to the overall success of the institution.

     This report has been provided by the non-employee  members of the Executive
Committee consisting of Directors Gioffre, Heithaus, Dinolfo and Staudt

Compensation of Directors

     Directors of the Company receive an annual retainer of $500, except for the
Chairman of the Board who receives $1,000.  Directors of the Bank receive $2,000
for each  meeting  attended,  except for the  Chairman of the Board who receives
$4,000.  In  addition,  the  Chairman  of the Board  receives  a $10,000  annual
retainer for his services as Chairman.

Benefits

     Directors  Deferred Fee Plan. The Directors  Deferred Fee Plan  ("Directors
Plan") is a non-qualified  deferred  compensation  plan into which directors can
defer up to 100% of their  board fees  earned  during  the  calendar  year.  All
amounts deferred by a director are fully vested at all times.  Upon cessation of
a director's  service with the Bank,  the Bank will pay the director the amounts
credited to the  director's  deferred fee  account.  The amounts will be paid in
substantially equal annual installments,  as selected by the director.  The date
of the first  installment  payment  also will be selected by the  director.  The
Directors  Plan  permits each  director to determine  whether to invest all or a
portion of such director's account in Common Stock of the Company.

     If the director  dies before all  payments  have been made,  the  remaining
payments will be made to the beneficiary  designated by the director in the same
form  that  payments  were  made to the  director.  If a  director  dies  before
receiving  any  payments,  the Bank  shall  pay the  director's  account  to the
director's beneficiary,  commencing within 30 days of the director's death, over
the period initially elected by the director. At the request of the beneficiary,
and with the approval of the Board,  the director's  benefits may be paid to the
beneficiary in a lump sum. The director may request a hardship  distribution  of
all or part of his or her  benefits  if the  director  suffers an  unforeseeable
emergency, defined as a severe financial hardship to the director resulting from
a sudden  and  unexpected  illness or  accident  of the  director  or his or her
dependent,  loss of the  director's  property due to casualty,  or other similar
extraordinary  and  unforeseeable  circumstances  arising  as a result of events
beyond the director's control.

     Executive  Agreements.  The Bank has  employment  agreements  with  Messrs.
McStravick and Fabiano. The agreements with Messrs.  McStravick and Fabiano have
a term of three years and may be extended  for an  additional  12 months on each
anniversary date so that the remaining term shall be 36 months. If the agreement
is not renewed,  the agreement will expire 36 months  following the  anniversary
date. Under the agreements, the base salaries for Messrs. McStravick and Fabiano
are $205,000 and $165,000,  respectively.  In addition to the base salary,  each
agreement  provides for, among other things,  participation in retirement plans,
stock option plans and other  employee and fringe  benefits  applicable to other
employees.  The agreements  provide for termination by the Bank for cause at any
time, in which event, the executive would have no right to receive  compensation
or other  benefits  for any  period  after  termination.  In the  event the Bank
terminates the  executive's  employment for reasons other than disability or for
cause,  or in the event of the  executive's  termination  of employment for good
reason upon (i) failure by the Bank to comply with any material provision of the
agreement,  which  failure  has not been cured  within 10 days after a notice of
noncompliance is issued by the executive, (ii) following a change in control (as
defined) at any time during the term of the  agreement,  or (iii) any  purported

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termination  of the  executive's  employment  which is not  pursuant  to a valid
notice of  termination,  the executive  would be entitled to severance pay in an
amount  equal to three times the average  annual  compensation  (computed on the
basis of the most recent five  taxable  years)  includable  in gross  income for
federal  income tax purposes.  Messrs.  McStravick  and Fabiano would receive an
aggregate of  approximately  $671,000 and  $470,000,  respectively,  pursuant to
their  employment  agreements  upon a change in control of the Bank,  based upon
current  levels of  compensation.  The Bank would also  continue,  at the Bank's
expense, the executive's life, health,  dental and other applicable benefit plan
coverage  until the executive  attains the age of 70 years,  provided,  however,
that the Bank's  obligation  terminates  if the  executive  receives  equivalent
medical or dental  coverage  from a new  employer.  The executive is entitled to
participate  in the Bank's  medical,  dental  and life  insurance  coverage  and
reimbursement  plans to the extent that such plans exist,  until the executive's
death. Under each agreement,  if the executive becomes disabled or incapacitated
to the extent that the  executive  is unable to perform  his duties,  he will be
entitled  to  100%  of his  compensation  for  the  first  six  months,  and 60%
thereafter for the remaining term of the  agreement.  Any disability  payment is
reduced to the extent benefits are received under disability insurance, workers'
compensation or other similar program.

     In July 2001, the Company entered into  employment  agreements with Messrs.
McStravick and Fabiano. The Company's employment  agreements with each executive
contain  substantially  similar  provisions to the Bank  employment  agreements,
except  that  the  Company   employment   agreements   provide  each   executive
indemnification  against any excise taxes which may be owed by the executive for
any payments made in connection with a change in control which would  constitute
"excess parachute  payments" under Section 280G of the Code. The indemnification
payment  would be the amount  necessary  to ensure that the  executive  receives
payments  and  benefits  equal in amount and value  equal to what the  executive
would  receive in the  absence of such excise  tax,  including  any taxes on the
Company's  payment to the executive  attributable to such taxes.  The agreements
with the  Company  do not  provide  for any  additional  compensation  to either
executive.

     Severance Plan for Key Employees. The Bank maintains the Severance Plan for
Key  Employees,  which is  designed  to offer a degree of  economic  security to
employees  in the position of  assistant  vice-president  and above in the event
their services are  terminated as a result of a change in control.  In the event
of (i) the  involuntary  termination  of a key  employee  following  a change in
control  other  than for  cause,  or (ii)  the  voluntary  termination  of a key
employee's  employment within one year after a change in control,  following any
demotion,  loss of title, office or significant  authority,  reduction in annual
compensation or benefits or relocation of the key employee's  principal place of
employment  by more than 30  miles,  the key  employee  shall be  entitled  to a
severance  pay in an amount equal to one month of base salary  multiplied by the
key employee's years of employment,  up to 24 months,  provided that the minimum
severance   payment  will  be  six  months  of  base  salary  for  an  assistant
vice-president and 12 months for a vice-president. In addition, the key employee
will be entitled to  continued  life,  medical and dental  coverage for the same
period as the number of months used for the  calculation of severance  benefits.
Severance  benefits  will  be  paid  in a lump  sum  within  30  days of the key
employee's termination of employment.  Benefits payable under the Severance Plan
for Key Employees will be reduced,  if necessary,  to avoid an "excess parachute
payment" under Section 280G of the Internal Revenue Code.

     Director  Emeritus  Plan.  The Director  Emeritus  Plan is a  non-qualified
retirement plan. Under the Director  Emeritus Plan, any director who attains the
age of 70 after the  completion  of 15 years of service as a director  qualifies
for director emeritus status. A director who has completed five years of service
as a director  qualifies for director  emeritus if termination of service is due
to the merger,  consolidation,  takeover or dissolution  of the Bank.  Under the
Director Emeritus Plan, a director emeritus is entitled to the same compensation
that the  Director  received  when he or she retired as a director,  without the
obligation of attendance at meetings of the Board of Directors.  Compensation is
paid to the director  emeritus  from the date of attainment of such status until
age 85, or for 15 years or death whichever comes first.

     Defined  Benefit  Pension  Plan.  The Bank  maintains  two defined  benefit
pension  plans,  one of which was assumed at the time the Company  completed the
acquisition of Peekskill Financial Corporation  ("Retirement Plans").  Employees
age 21 or older  who have  worked  at the Bank for a period of one year and have
been  credited with 1,000 or more hours of service with the Bank during the year
are eligible to accrue benefits under the Retirement Plans. The Bank contributes
each year,  if  necessary,  an amount to the  Retirement  Plans to  satisfy  the
actuarially  determined  minimum  funding  requirements  in accordance  with the
Employee  Retirement Income Security Act of 1974, as amended ("ERISA").  For the
year ended March 31, 2003, the Bank made  contributions  to the Retirement Plans

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of approximately  $3.1 million.  At December 31, 2002, the total market value of
the assets in the Retirement Plans trust funds was approximately $7.1 million.

     In the event of  retirement on or after the normal  retirement  date (i.e.,
the first day of the calendar month  coincident with or next following the later
of age 65 or the fifth anniversary of participation in the Retirement Plans, or,
for a  participant  prior to January 1, 1992,  age 65),  the plan is designed to
provide a single life  annuity.  For a married  participant,  the normal form of
benefit is an actuarially  reduced joint and survivor  annuity  where,  upon the
participant's  death, the participant's  spouse is entitled to receive a benefit
equal to 50% of that paid during the participant's  lifetime.  Alternatively,  a
participant may elect (with proper spousal  consent,  if necessary) from various
other options,  including a joint and 100% survivor  annuity,  joint and 66-2/3%
survivor  annuity,  joint and 50% survivor  annuity,  years  certain  option and
social security  option.  The normal  retirement  benefit  provided is an amount
equal to the  difference  between 4% of final  earnings (as defined in the plan)
and 0.65% of the final average  compensation  (average  earnings during the last
three  calendar years of service) up to the Social  Security  taxable wage base,
multiplied by the participant's years of credited service (up to a maximum of 15
years).  Retirement  benefits are also payable upon  retirement due to early and
late retirement or death. A reduced benefit is payable upon early  retirement at
age 55 and the  completion  of 5 years of vested  service  with the Bank.  Fifty
percent of the normal  retirement  benefit will be paid to a surviving spouse if
the  participant  dies while in active  service and has  attained age 50 with 10
years of vested service. The preretirement death benefit is reduced by 1.96% for
each year the spouse is more than 10 years younger than the participant.  If the
participant has not attained age 50 with 10 years of service,  but has completed
5 years of service, the spouse will be eligible for a reduced benefit payable as
a joint and 50% annuity.  Upon termination of employment other than as specified
above, a participant who has five years of vested service is eligible to receive
his or her accrued  benefit  commencing,  generally,  on the  employee's  normal
retirement date, or, if elected, on or after reaching age 55.

     The following table indicates the annual  retirement  benefit that would be
payable under the  Retirement  Plans upon  retirement at age 65 in calendar year
2003,  expressed  in the form of a single  life  annuity  for the final  average
salary and benefit service classifications specified below.

  Final Average               Years of Service and Benefit Payable at Retirement
                              --------------------------------------------------
  Compensation                    15           20           25            30
  ------------                -----------  -----------  -----------   ----------

   $   50,000                  $  26,154    $  26,154    $  26,154    $  26,154
   $   75,000                  $  41,154    $  41,154    $  41,154    $  41,154
   $  100,000                  $  56,154    $  56,154    $  56,154    $  56,154
   $125,000                    $  71,154    $  71,154    $  71,154    $  71,154
   $150,000                    $  86,154    $  86,154    $  86,154    $  86,154
   $ 175,000                   $  98,154    $  98,154    $  98,154    $  98,154
   $ 200,000                   $ 116,154    $ 116,154    $ 116,154    $ 116,154

     As of March 31, 2003,  Mr.  McStravick  and Mr.  Fabiano had 25 years and 4
years,  respectively,  of credited  service  (i.e.,  benefit  service) under the
Retirement Plans.

     Stock  Option  Plan.  During the year ended  March 31,  2000,  the  Company
adopted,  and the Company's  stockholders  approved,  the 1999 Stock Option Plan
(the  "Stock  Option  Plan").  Pursuant  to the Stock  Option  Plan,  options to
purchase  261,453 shares were granted to non-employee  directors  (including two
directors  emeriti)  at an exercise  price of $3.298 per share,  the fair market
value of the underlying shares on the date of the award. The term of the options
is ten years from the date of grant,  and the shares  subject to awards  will be
adjusted   in  the   event  of  any   merger,   consolidation,   reorganization,
recapitalization, stock dividend, stock split, combination or exchange of shares
or other change in the corporate  structure of the Company.  The awards included
an equal number of reload options ("Reload Options"), limited stock appreciation
rights ("Limited Rights") and dividend  equivalent rights ("Dividend  Equivalent
Rights").  A Limited Right gives the option  holder the right,  upon a change in
control of the Company or the Bank, to receive the excess of the market value of
the shares  represented  by the Limited  Rights on the date  exercised  over the
exercise price.  The Limited Rights are subject to the same terms and conditions
as the stock  options.  Payment upon exercise of Limited Rights will be in cash,
or in the event of a merger transaction, for shares of the acquiring corporation
or its parent, as applicable.  The Dividend Equivalent Rights entitle the option
holder to  receive  an amount  of cash at the time  that  certain  extraordinary

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dividends  are  declared  equal  to the  amount  of the  extraordinary  dividend
multiplied by the number of options that the person holds.  For these  purposes,
an extraordinary  dividend is defined as any dividend where the rate of dividend
exceeds  the  Bank's  weighted   average  cost  of  funds  on   interest-bearing
liabilities  for the current and preceding  three  quarters.  The Reload Options
entitle  the option  holder,  who has  delivered  shares  that he or she owns as
payment  of the  exercise  price for  option  stock,  to a new option to acquire
additional  shares equal to the number of shares he or she has traded in. Reload
Options may also be granted to replace  option  shares  retained by the employer
for payment of the option  holder's  withholding  tax. The option price at which
additional  shares of stock can be  purchased by the option  holder  through the
exercise of a Reload Option is equal to the market value of the previously owned
stock at the time it was surrendered.  The option period during which the Reload
Option may be exercised  expires at the same time as that of the original option
that the holder has exercised.

     Set forth below is certain  information  concerning options  outstanding to
the Named  Executive  Officers at March 31,  2003.  No options  were  granted to
Messrs.  McStravick  and  Fabiano  during  fiscal  year 2003.  No  options  were
exercised by Messrs. McStravick and Fabiano during fiscal year 2003.





====================================================================================================================
                          FISCAL YEAR-END OPTION VALUES
====================================================================================================================
============================ ================ ================= ========================= ==========================
           Name              Shares Acquired       Value
                                                                 Number of Unexercised      Value of Unexercised
                                                                       Options at          In-The-Money Options at
                              Upon Exercise       Realized              Year-End                Year-End (1)
                                                                ------------------------- --------------------------
                                                                ------------------------- --------------------------
                                                                Exercisable/Unexercisable Exercisable/Unexercisable
                                                                          (#)                        ($)
- ---------------------------- ---------------- ----------------- ------------------------- --------------------------
- ---------------------------- ---------------- ----------------- ------------------------- --------------------------
                                                                                 
Richard P. McStravick              --                $--             101,816/25,454           $937,928/$234,482
- ---------------------------- ---------------- ----------------- ------------------------- --------------------------
Anthony J.  Fabiano                --                $--             88,536/22,134            $815,593/$203,898
============================ ================ ================= ========================= ==========================

- ------------------------------------
(1)  Based on a market  value  of  $12.51  per  share at March  31,  2003 and an
     exercise price of $3.298.

     Recognition and Retention Plan. During the fiscal year ended March 31, 2000
the  Company  adopted,  and  the  Company's   stockholders  approved,  the  1999
Recognition  and  Retention  Plan  (the  "Recognition  Plan").  Pursuant  to the
Recognition  Plan,  14,575  shares of stock were  awarded  to each  non-employee
director,  except for Messrs.  Maynard,  Telerico and Ms.  Bernhardt who did not
receive awards,  and 58,100 and 38,733 shares were awarded to Mr. McStravick and
Mr. Fabiano, respectively.

     The  Company  does not have any equity  compensation  program  that was not
approved by stockholders other than its employee stock ownership plan.

     Set forth  below is  certain  information  as of March 31,  2003  regarding
equity  compensation to directors,  directors  emeriti,  executive  officers and
employees of the Company approved by stockholders.



===================================================================================================================
          Plan Category               Number of securities to be       Weighted average        Number of securities
          -------------                issued upon exercise of          exercise price        remaining available for
                                      outstanding options and rights                           issuance under plans
- -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
- -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Equity compensation plans approved by
                                                                                     
stockholders(1)                                     822,019                 $3.298                  --
- -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
- -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Total                                               822,019                 $3.298                  --
===================================================================================================================


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(1)  Includes  40,424 shares  awarded under the  Recognition  Plan that were not
     vested at March 31, 2003.  Shares  awarded under the  Recognition  Plan are
     owned  by  the  recipient  upon  expiration  of  the  vesting  period  and,
     therefore, are not included in the weighted average exercise price.

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                    TRANSACTIONS WITH CERTAIN RELATED PERSONS


Transactions With Certain Related Persons

     The Bank offers loans to directors, officers, and employees in the ordinary
course of business on  substantially  the same terms (other than interest rate),
including   collateral,   as  those   prevailing  at  the  time  for  comparable
transactions  with other persons,  and which do not involve more than the normal
risk of  collectibility or present other  unfavorable  features.  All such loans
were  performing  in  accordance  with their  terms as of the date of this proxy
statement.  Federal  regulations  permit  executive  officers  and  directors to
participate in loan programs that are available to other  employees,  so long as
the director or executive officer is not given  preferential  treatment compared
to other  participating  employees.  The interest rate on loans to directors and
officers is the same as that offered to the Bank's other employees.

     Section 402 of the Sarbanes-Oxley Act of 2002 generally prohibits a company
from  extending  credit,  arranging  for the  extension of credit or renewing an
extension of credit in the form of a personal  loan to an officer or director of
the Company. There are several exceptions to this general prohibition, including
loans  made by an FDIC  insured  depository  institution  that is subject to the
insider  lending  restrictions  of the  Federal  Reserve  Act.  All loans to the
Company's  directors  and officers  comply with the Federal  Reserve Act and the
Federal  Reserve  Board's  Regulation O and,  therefore,  are excepted  from the
prohibitions of Section 402.


             PROPOSAL - APPROVAL OF THE SOUND FEDERAL BANCORP, INC.

                        2004 INCENTIVE STOCK BENEFIT PLAN


     The Board of Directors  has adopted the 2004  Incentive  Stock Benefit Plan
(the "2004 Stock Benefit Plan") to provide officers,  employees and directors of
Sound Federal  Bancorp,  Inc. and its affiliates with  additional  incentives to
share in our growth and performance.  The following is a summary of the material
features of the 2004 Stock Benefit  Plan,  which is qualified in its entirety by
reference to the provisions of the Plan attached hereto as Exhibit A.

General

     The 2004 Stock Benefit Plan will remain in effect for a period of ten years
following  adoption by stockholders.  The 2004 Stock Benefit Plan authorizes the
issuance of up to 1,089,303 shares of Sound Federal  Bancorp,  Inc. common stock
pursuant to grants of stock options or stock awards.  This represents 14% of the
shares sold in  connection  with the  "second-step"  conversion of Sound Federal
Bancorp,  MHC from mutual to stock form.  No more than 389,037  shares under the
2004  Stock  Benefit  Plan,  representing  5% of the  shares  sold  in the  2003
conversion,  will be available to be granted as stock  awards.  At least 700,266
shares available for award under the 2004 Stock Benefit Plan, representing 9% of
the shares sold in the 2003 stock conversion, will be available to be granted as
stock options.

     The 2004  Stock  Benefit  Plan will be  administered  by a  committee  (the
"Committee") appointed by the Board of Directors which will consist of either at
least  two  "Non-employee  Directors"  or the  entire  Board of  Directors.  The
Committee  has the power  within  the  limitations  set forth in the 2004  Stock
Benefit Plan to make all decisions and determinations regarding the selection of
participants  and the granting of awards;  establishing the terms and conditions
relating to each award; adopting rules,  regulations and guidelines for carrying
out the Plan's  purposes;  and  interpreting  and otherwise  construing the 2004
Stock Benefit Plan; provided,  however, that the Board has the power to take any
action the Committee can take and may reverse or override the Committee  action.
The 2004  Stock  Benefit  Plan may be  amended  by the  Board or the  Committee,
without the  approval of  stockholders,  but no such  amendments  may  adversely
affect any  outstanding  awards  under the 2004 Stock  Benefit  Plan without the
consent of the holders thereof.

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Eligibility

     Key employees and outside directors of Sound Federal Bancorp,  Inc. and its
affiliates  are eligible to receive awards under the 2004 Stock Benefit Plan. In
addition, as of the date of this proxy statement no awards have been made to the
chief executive officer,  other executive officers, any of our directors who are
not executive officers or to any of our employees including officers who are not
executive officers, and such awards have not been determined.

Types of Awards

     The Committee  may  determine  the type and terms and  conditions of awards
under the Plan.  Awards may be  granted in a  combination  of  options,  limited
rights, reload options, dividend equivalent rights and stock awards. Such awards
may have terms  providing  that the  settlement  or payment of one type of award
automatically  reduces or cancels the remaining award.  Awards may include,  but
are not limited to, the following:

     Stock  Options.  A stock option gives the  recipient  the right to purchase
shares of common stock at a specified price for a specified  period of time. The
exercise price of each option may not be less than 100% of the fair market value
of Sound Federal  Bancorp,  Inc. common stock on the date of grant.  Fair market
value for purposes of the 2004 Stock  Benefit  Plan means the  reported  closing
price of the common  stock on the day the  option is  granted  or, if the common
stock is not traded on such date, on the next  preceding day on which the common
stock was traded.  Once granted,  stock options may not be re-priced  (i.e., the
exercise  price may not be changed to be less than the fair market  value of the
underlying share on the date of grant,  other than adjustments for stock splits,
stock dividends and similar events).

     Stock options are either "incentive" stock options or "non-qualified" stock
options.  Incentive  stock options have certain tax  advantages  and must comply
with  the  requirements  of  Section  422 of the  Internal  Revenue  Code.  Only
employees are eligible to receive incentive stock options. A stock option may be
exercised in whole or in installments, which may be cumulative. Shares of common
stock  purchased upon the exercise of a stock option must be paid for in full at
the time of exercise either in cash, the surrender of shares of common stock, or
via a "cashless  exercise"  (as defined in the 2004 Stock Benefit  Plan).  Stock
options are subject to vesting conditions as determined by the Committee.

     Limited Rights.  A limited right gives the option holder the right,  upon a
change in control of Sound Federal Bancorp,  Inc. or Sound Federal  Savings,  to
receive the excess of the market value of the shares  represented by the limited
right on the date exercised over the exercise  price.  Limited rights  generally
will be subject to the same terms and  conditions  and  exercisable  to the same
extent as stock options, as described above.  Payment upon exercise of a limited
right will be in cash or, in the event of a merger transaction, in shares of the
acquiring corporation or its parent, as applicable.

     Limited  rights may be granted at the time of, and must be related  to, the
grant of a stock  option.  The  exercise  of a  limited  right is in lieu of the
exercise of a stock  option and vice versa.  If a limited  right is granted with
and related to an incentive stock option, the limited right must satisfy all the
restrictions  and  limitations  to which the related  incentive  stock option is
subject.

     Reload Options. Reload options entitle the option holder, who has delivered
shares of common stock as payment of the exercise  price for option stock,  to a
new option to acquire additional shares equal in amount to the shares the option
holder has traded.  Reload  options also may be granted at the time of the grant
of a stock option.  Reload  options also may be granted to replace option shares
retained by Sound  Federal  Bancorp,  Inc.  for  payment of the option  holder's
withholding  tax.  The option price at which  additional  shares of stock may be
purchased  through the exercise of a reload  option is equal to the market value
of the common stock that was surrendered to pay the exercise price of the option
at the time it was surrendered. The option period during which the reload option
may be exercised  expires at the same time as that of the  original  option that
was exercised.

     Dividend  Equivalent Rights.  Dividend equivalent rights entitle the option
holder to  receive  an amount  of cash at the time  that  certain  extraordinary
dividends  are  declared  equal to the  difference  between  the  amount  of the
extraordinary  dividend per share of common  stock and the average  dividend per
share of  common  stock  based  on the  current  and  preceding  three  quarters
(assuming  dividends  were paid in each  quarter,  and if not then  based on the

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average of the last four quarters in which  dividends were paid),  multiplied by
the  number  of  options  that  the  person  holds.   For  these  purposes,   an
extraordinary  dividend  is  defined  under the 2004 Stock  Benefit  Plan as any
dividend  paid on shares of common stock where the dividend rate exceeds 200% of
Sound  Federal  Savings'  weighted  average  cost of funds  on  interest-bearing
liabilities  for the  current  quarter  and  preceding  three  quarters  and the
annualized  aggregate  dollar  amount  of the  dividend  exceeds  Sound  Federal
Savings'  net income  after taxes for the current  quarter and  preceding  three
quarters.

     Stock  Awards.  No more than  389,037  shares may be granted in the form of
stock  awards under the 2004 Stock  Benefit  Plan.  Stock awards may  constitute
actual shares of Common Stock or may be  denominated in stock units that entitle
the  recipient  to  receive  future  payments  in  either  shares,  cash,  or  a
combination thereof.  Stock awards will be subject to conditions  established by
the  Committee  which  are set  forth in the award  agreement,  and may  include
continuous  service with Sound Federal  Bancorp,  Inc.,  achievement of specific
business  objectives,  and other  measurements of performance.  Any stock awards
will be evidenced by agreements  approved by the  Committee  which set forth the
terms and conditions of each award.

     Generally,  all awards,  except non-incentive stock options,  granted under
the  2004  Stock  Benefit  Plan  will be  nontransferable  except  by will or in
accordance  with the laws of descent and  distribution or pursuant to a domestic
relations order.  During the life of the recipient,  incentive stock options may
be  exercised  only  by him or her.  However,  a  participant  may  designate  a
beneficiary to exercise  his/her  rights under any stock option,  reload option,
limited  right or dividend  equivalent  right under the 2004 Stock  Benefit Plan
upon the participant's death.

Termination of Employment

     Upon  termination  of  employment  for any reason  other  than  disability,
retirement,  change in control,  death or termination  for cause,  an employee's
unvested stock awards will be forfeited and the employee's stock options will be
exercisable only as to those shares immediately  purchasable by or vested in the
employee at the date of termination,  and such options may be exercised only for
three months  following  termination.  Upon  termination  because of disability,
retirement, change in control or death, the employee's unvested stock awards and
stock options will become fully vested and the employee's  stock options will be
exercisable as to all shares,  whether or not then  exercisable,  for up to five
years following termination.  In no event will the exercise period extend beyond
the  expiration  of the stock  option  term.  Stock  options  will  expire  upon
termination for cause.

Termination of Service as a Director

     Upon  termination  of a  director's  service  for  any  reason  other  than
disability,  retirement,  change in control, death or termination for cause, the
director's  unvested  stock awards will be forfeited  and the  director's  stock
options will be exercisable only as to those shares  immediately  purchasable by
or vested in the  director at the date of  termination,  and such options may be
exercised for one year following  termination.  Upon termination of a director's
service because of disability,  retirement, change in control or death, unvested
stock awards will become fully vested and the  director's  stock options will be
exercisable as to all shares,  whether or not then  exercisable,  for up to five
years following termination.  In no event will the exercise period extend beyond
the  expiration  of the stock  option  term.  Stock  options  will  expire  upon
termination for cause.

Tax Consequences

     The  following  are the federal tax  consequences  generally  arising  with
respect to awards  granted under the 2004 Stock  Benefit  Plan.  The grant of an
option or limited right will create no tax consequences for a recipient or Sound
Federal Bancorp,  Inc. The recipient will have no taxable income upon exercising
an  incentive  stock  option and Sound  Federal  Bancorp,  Inc.  will receive no
deduction when an incentive stock option is exercised.  However,  the difference
between the fair market value of the common stock and the exercise  price on the
date of  exercise  is a tax  preference  item for  purposes  of the  alternative
minimum  tax.  Upon  exercising  a  non-qualified  option,  the  recipient  must
recognize ordinary income equal to the difference between the exercise price and
the fair market  value of the stock on the date of exercise,  and Sound  Federal
Bancorp,  Inc.  will be  entitled to a deduction  for the same  amount.  The tax

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treatment  for a  recipient  on a  disposition  of shares  acquired  through the
exercise of an option  depends on how long the shares have been held and whether
such  shares  were  acquired  by  exercising  an  incentive  stock  option  or a
non-qualified  option.  Generally,  there will be no tax  consequences  to Sound
Federal  Bancorp,  Inc. in connection  with the  disposition of shares  acquired
pursuant to an option,  except that Sound Federal Bancorp,  Inc. may be entitled
to a deduction if shares acquired pursuant to an incentive stock option are sold
before the required holding periods have been satisfied.

     With respect to other awards granted under the 2004 Stock Benefit Plan that
are settled either in cash or in stock, the participant must recognize  ordinary
income  equal to the cash or the fair market  value of shares or other  property
received and Sound Federal Bancorp, Inc. will be entitled to a deduction for the
same amount.  With respect to awards that are settled in stock,  the participant
must  recognize  ordinary  income  equal to the fair market  value of the shares
received  at  the  time  the  shares  became  transferable  or  not  subject  to
substantial risk of forfeiture, whichever occurs earlier. Sound Federal Bancorp,
Inc. will be entitled to a deduction for the same amount.

     No  options  have been  granted or stock  awards  made under the 2004 Stock
Benefit  Plan  as  of  the  date  of  this  proxy  statement.  There  are  eight
non-management directors of Sound Federal Bancorp, Inc. and its subsidiaries, 36
employees and two directors  emeriti  eligible to  participate in the 2004 Stock
Benefit Plan.

     As of  December  17,  2003,  the last sale  price of the common  stock,  as
reported on the Nasdaq National Market,  was $15.11. The affirmative vote of the
holders of a majority  of the votes cast at the  Special  Meeting is required to
approve  the 2004 Stock  Benefit  Plan.  The  purpose of  obtaining  shareholder
approval of the 2004 Stock  Benefit Plan is to qualify the plan for the granting
of  incentive  stock  options,  to  obtain an  exemption  for  awards  under the
Securities  Exchange  Act short swing  profit  trading  rules and to satisfy the
requirement for listing the common stock on the Nasdaq National Market.

Amendment to the 2004 Stock Benefit Plan

     The Board of Directors or the Committee may at any time modify or amend the
Plan as it deems  necessary or  appropriate or modify or amend an award received
by employees and/or outside directors;  however, no such amendment may adversely
affect any  outstanding  awards  under the 2004 Stock  Benefit  Plan without the
consent of the holders of such awards.

THE BOARD OF DIRECTORS  RECOMMENDS THAT YOU VOTE "FOR" THE APPROVAL OF THE SOUND
FEDERAL BANCORP, INC. 2004 INCENTIVE STOCK BENEFIT PLAN.

                              STOCKHOLDER PROPOSALS

     In order to be eligible for inclusion in the Company's  proxy materials for
next year's Annual Meeting of  Stockholders,  any  stockholder  proposal to take
action at such meeting must be received at the Company's  executive office, 1311
Mamaroneck  Avenue,  White Plains, New York 10605, no later than March 17, 2004.
Any such  proposals  shall be subject  to the  requirements  of the proxy  rules
adopted under the Exchange Act.

         ADVANCE NOTICE OF BUSINESS TO BE CONDUCTED AT AN ANNUAL MEETING

     The  Bylaws of the  Company  provide  an advance  notice  procedure  before
certain  business or nominations to the Board of Directors may be brought before
an annual meeting.  In order for a stockholder to properly bring business before
an annual meeting,  or to propose a nominee to the Board,  the stockholder  must
give written notice to the Secretary of the Company not less than 90 days before
the date fixed for such meeting; provided,  however, that in the event that less
than 100 days notice or prior  public  disclosure  of the date of the meeting is
given or made, to be timely, notice by the stockholder must be received no later
than the close of  business  on the tenth day  following  the day on which  such
notice of the date of the annual  meeting was mailed or such  public  disclosure
was made. The notice must include the stockholder's  name,  record address,  and
number  of  shares  owned by the  stockholder,  describe  briefly  the  proposed
business,  the reasons for bringing the business before the annual meeting,  and
any material interest of the stockholder in the proposed  business.  In the case
of nominations to the Board,  certain information  regarding the nominee must be
provided.  Nothing in this  paragraph  shall be deemed to require the Company to
include in its proxy  statement  and proxy  relating  to an annual  meeting  any
stockholder  proposal which does not meet all of the  requirements for inclusion
established by the SEC in effect at the time such proposal is received.

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     The date on which next year's annual meeting of stockholders is expected to
be held is August 12, 2004.  Accordingly,  advance written notice of business or
nominations  to the Board of  Directors  to be brought  before  the next  annual
meeting  of  stockholders  must be given to the  Company no later than April 10,
2004.

                                  MISCELLANEOUS

     The Board of  Directors  is not aware of any  business  to come  before the
Meeting other than the matters described above in this proxy statement. However,
if any matters  should  properly  come before the Meeting,  it is intended  that
holders  of the  proxies  will act as  directed  by a  majority  of the Board of
Directors, except for matters related to the conduct of the Meeting, as to which
the Board of Directors shall act in accordance with their best judgment.

     The cost of  solicitation  of  proxies  will be borne by the  Company.  The
Company has engaged Georgeson Shareholder Communications,  Inc. to assist in the
solicitation  of proxies in connection with the Meeting.  Georgeson  Shareholder
Communications,  Inc. will receive a fee of $7,500.  The Company will  reimburse
brokerage  firms and other  custodians,  nominees and fiduciaries for reasonable
expenses incurred by them in sending proxy materials to the beneficial owners of
Common Stock.  In addition to  solicitations  by mail,  directors,  officers and
regular employees of the Bank may solicit proxies  personally or by telegraph or
telephone without additional compensation.

                                              BY ORDER OF THE BOARD OF DIRECTORS

                                              /s/ Anthony J. Fabiano
                                              --------------------------------
                                              Anthony J. Fabiano
                                              Corporate Secretary
White Plains, New York
January 2, 2004

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                                                                      EXHIBIT A

                           SOUND FEDERAL BANCORP, INC.
                        2004 INCENTIVE STOCK BENEFIT PLAN


     1. PURPOSE.  The purpose of the Sound Federal Bancorp,  Inc. 2004 Incentive
Stock  Benefit  Plan (the  "Plan") is to (i)  provide  employees,  officers  and
directors of Sound Federal Bancorp, Inc. (the "Company"),  Sound Federal Savings
(the  "Association") and any Affiliates of the Company (as defined below),  with
additional  incentives to improve the growth and performance of the Company, and
(ii) to attract and retain  qualified and  experienced  personnel to the Company
and its Affiliates.

     2. TERM. The Plan shall be effective as of the date of stockholder approval
(the  "Effective  Date"),  and shall remain in effect for ten years  thereafter,
unless  sooner  terminated by the Company's  Board of Directors  (the  "Board").
After  termination  of the  Plan,  no  additional  awards  may be  granted,  but
previously  granted  awards shall remain  outstanding  in accordance  with their
applicable terms and conditions and the terms and conditions of the Plan.

     3. PLAN ADMINISTRATION.

     (a)  Role  of  the  Committee.  The  Plan  shall  be  administered  by  the
          Committee.  The  Committee  shall  consist  of either (i) at least two
          "Non-Employee  Directors" of the Company,  or (ii) the entire Board of
          the Company.  A  "Non-Employee  Director"  means,  for purposes of the
          Plan,  a  director  who:  (a) is not  employed  by the  Company  or an
          Affiliate;  (b) does not receive  compensation  directly or indirectly
          from the Company as a consultant  (or in any capacity  other than as a
          director)  greater  than  $60,000;  (c) does not have an interest in a
          transaction  requiring disclosure under Item 404(a) of Regulation S-K;
          or (d) is not engaged in a business  relationship for which disclosure
          would be  required  pursuant  to Item 404(b) of  Regulation  S-K.  The
          interpretation  and construction by the Committee of any provisions of
          the Plan or of any Award granted hereunder shall be final and binding,
          except as set forth herein below.  The Committee  shall act by vote or
          written  consent of a majority of its members.  Subject to the express
          provisions  and  limitations of the Plan, the Committee may adopt such
          rules and  procedures as it deems  appropriate  for the conduct of its
          affairs. The Committee shall have the power to interpret and implement
          the Plan and any rules, regulations,  guidelines or agreements adopted
          hereunder,  and to adopt such rules,  regulations  and  guidelines for
          carrying out the Plan as it may deem necessary or proper. These powers
          shall include, but not be limited to: (i) determination of the type or
          types of awards to be granted under the Plan;  (ii)  determination  of
          the  terms  and  conditions  of  any  awards  under  the  Plan;  (iii)
          determination of whether,  to what extent and under what circumstances
          awards  may be  settled,  paid or  exercised  in cash,  shares,  other
          securities,  other awards, other property,  or accelerated,  canceled,
          extended,  forfeited or  suspended;  (iv)  adoption of  modifications,
          amendments,  procedures, and subplans as may be necessary; (v) subject
          to the rights of participants, modification, amendment or cancellation
          of any award to correct an  administrative  error; and (vi) taking any
          other  action the  Committee  deems  necessary  or  desirable  for the
          administration of the Plan. The Committee shall report its actions and
          decisions with respect to the Plan to the Board at appropriate  times,
          but in no event less than one time per calendar year.

     (b)  Role of the Board.  The members of the Committee shall be appointed or
          approved by, and will serve at the pleasure of, the Board of Directors
          of the  Company.  The  Board may in its  discretion  from time to time
          remove members from, or add members to, the Committee,  subject to the
          requirements  set forth in subsection (a) above.  The Board shall have
          all of the  powers  allocated  to it in the Plan,  may take any action
          under or with respect to the Plan that the  Committee is authorized to
          take, and may reverse or override any action taken or decision made by
          the Committee  under or with respect to the Plan;  provided,  however,
          that the  Board  may not  revoke  any  Award  except  in the  event of
          revocation  for Cause or with respect to unearned  Awards in the event
          the Recipient of an Award voluntarily  terminates  employment with the
          Company or its Affiliates prior to Normal Retirement.

     (c)  Plan  Administration   Restrictions.   All  grants,  awards  or  other
          acquisitions from the Company shall:

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          (i)  be approved by the Company's full Board or by the Committee;

          (ii) be approved,  or ratified,  in compliance  with Section 14 of the
               Exchange Act, by either: the affirmative vote of the holders of a
               majority of the shares  present,  or represented  and entitled to
               vote at a meeting  duly held in  accordance  with the laws  under
               which the Company is incorporated;  or the written consent of the
               holders of a majority of the securities of the issuer entitled to
               vote,  provided that such  ratification  occurs no later than the
               date of the next annual meeting of stockholders; or

          (iii)be held (unless  forfeited)  by the  Recipient for a period of at
               least  six  months  prior to  exercise,  if the  grant,  award or
               acquisition involves a Stock Option or Limited Right.

     (d)  Limitation of Liability. No member of the Board or the Committee shall
          be liable for any determination made in good faith with respect to the
          Plan or any Awards  granted  under it. If a member of the Board or the
          Committee  is a party  or is  threatened  to be  made a  party  to any
          threatened,  pending or completed action, suit or proceeding,  whether
          civil,  criminal,   administrative  or  investigative,  by  reason  of
          anything  done or not done by him/her in such  capacity  under or with
          respect to the Plan,  the Company or its  Affiliates  shall  indemnify
          such  member  against  all  expenses   (including   attorneys'  fees),
          judgments,   fines  and  amounts  paid  in  settlement   actually  and
          reasonably incurred by him/her in connection with such action, suit or
          proceeding  if  he/she  acted in good  faith  and in a  manner  he/she
          reasonably believed to be in the best interests of the Company and its
          Affiliates and, with respect to any criminal action or proceeding, had
          no reasonable cause to believe his/her conduct was unlawful.

     4.  ELIGIBILITY TO  PARTICIPATE.  Officers and employees of the Company and
its  Affiliates   shall  be  eligible  to  receive   Incentive   Stock  Options,
Non-Statutory Stock Options,  Stock Awards,  Limited Rights,  Reload Options and
/or Dividend Equivalent Rights under the Plan (collectively,  "awards"). Outside
directors  shall be  eligible to receive  Non-Statutory  Stock  Options,  Reload
Options,  Dividend  Equivalent  Rights and Stock Awards under the Plan. The term
"Company"  includes any entity that is directly or indirectly  controlled by the
Company or any entity in which the Company has a significant equity interest, as
determined by the Committee. The term "Affiliate" means any "parent corporation"
or "subsidiary corporation" of the Company within the meaning of Sections 424(e)
and  (f) of the  Internal  Revenue  Code  ("Code"),  respectively.  An  "outside
director" means a director of the Company or an Affiliate who is not an employee
of the Company or an Affiliate.

     5. SHARES OF STOCK SUBJECT TO THE PLAN. 1,089,303 shares of common stock of
the Company  ("Common  Stock") in the aggregate are reserved for issuance  under
the Plan, which shares shall be available for issuance (subject to adjustment as
provided in Section 6) pursuant to the exercise of Stock Options,  granted under
Sections 7(a) and 7(c) of the Plan,  or Stock Awards,  under Section 7(d) of the
Plan.  No more than  389,037  shares  will be  available  to be granted as Stock
Awards and at least 700,266  shares will be available  for issuance  pursuant to
the grant of Stock  Options.  The maximum  number of Stock  Options  that may be
granted to any one employee of the Company is 175,067.

     Any shares that are issued by the Company,  and any awards that are granted
by, or become obligations of, the Company, through the assumption by the Company
or an Affiliate thereof,  or in substitution for,  outstanding awards previously
granted  by an  acquired  company,  shall  not be  counted  against  the  shares
available for issuance under the Plan. In addition, any shares that are used for
the full or partial  payment of the  exercise  price of any option or in full or
partial  payment  of a  tax-withholding  obligation  under  the Plan will not be
counted as issued under the Plan and will be available  for future  grants under
the Plan.

     Any  shares  issued  under the Plan may  consist,  in whole or in part,  of
authorized and unissued shares, treasury shares or shares purchased by the Plan.
No fractional shares shall be issued under the Plan. Cash may be paid in lieu of
any fractional shares in settlement of awards under the Plan.

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     6. ADJUSTMENTS.

     If the  number  of  outstanding  shares  of Common  Stock is  increased  or
decreased  or the shares of Common  Stock are changed  into or  exchanged  for a
different number or kind of shares or other securities of the Company on account
of  any   recapitalization,   reclassification,   stock  split,  reverse  split,
combination of shares,  exchange of shares, stock dividend or other distribution
payable in capital stock,  or other increase or decrease in such shares effected
without receipt of  consideration  by the Company  occurring after the Effective
Date,  the  number  and kinds of shares  for which  grants of awards may be made
under the Plan shall be adjusted proportionately and accordingly by the Company.
In  addition,  the number and kind of shares  for which  grants are  outstanding
shall be adjusted  proportionately  and  accordingly  so that the  proportionate
interest of the grantee  immediately  following such event shall,  to the extent
practicable,  be the same as immediately  before such event. Any such adjustment
in  outstanding  Stock  Options  shall not change  the  aggregate  Stock  Option
purchase  price  payable  with  respect  to  shares  that  are  subject  to  the
unexercised  portion  of the  Stock  Option  outstanding,  but  shall  include a
corresponding  proportionate  adjustment in the Stock Option  purchase price per
share.

     Adjustments  under  this  Section 6 relating  to shares of Common  Stock or
securities of the Company shall be made by the Committee, whose determination in
that respect shall be final,  binding and  conclusive.  No fractional  shares or
other  securities  shall be  issued  pursuant  to any such  adjustment,  and any
fractions resulting from any such adjustment shall be eliminated in each case by
rounding downward to the nearest whole share. The granting of awards pursuant to
the Plan shall not affect or limit in any way the right or power of the  Company
to make  adjustments,  reclassifications,  reorganizations,  or  changes  of its
capital or business structure or to merge, consolidate,  dissolve, or liquidate,
or to sell or transfer all or any part of its business or assets.

     7. AWARDS.  The Committee  shall determine the type or types of award(s) to
be made to each  participant  under  the Plan and  shall  approve  the terms and
conditions  governing  these awards in accordance with Section 11. Awards may be
granted singly, in combination or in tandem so that the settlement or payment of
one automatically  reduces or cancels the other. The types of awards that may be
made under the Plan are set forth below.

     (a)  "Stock  Option"  - means a grant of a right to  purchase  a  specified
          number of shares of Common  Stock  under the Plan  during a  specified
          period.  A Stock  Option  may be in the  form of an  "Incentive  Stock
          Option",  which means a Stock  Option  granted by the  Committee  that
          complies with Section 422 of the Code, as amended, and the regulations
          thereunder at the time of grant, or of a  Non-Statutory  Stock Option,
          as defined in this paragraph.  A "Non-Statutory  Stock Option" means a
          Stock Option  granted by the  Committee to (i) an outside  director or
          (ii) to any other  participant,  and such  option  is  either  (A) not
          designated by the Committee as an Incentive Stock Option, or (B) fails
          to satisfy the  requirements of an Incentive Stock Option as set forth
          in  Section  422 of the  Code  and  the  regulations  thereunder.  The
          exercise price of each Stock Option shall be the per share Fair Market
          Value of Common Stock on the date the award is granted.  However, if a
          key employee owns stock possessing more than 10% of the total combined
          voting power of all classes of stock of the Company or its  Affiliates
          (or  under  Section  424(d)  of the  Code,  is  deemed  to  own  stock
          representing  more than 10% of the total combined  voting power of all
          classes  of stock of the  Company or its  Affiliates  by reason of the
          ownership of such classes of stock, directly or indirectly,  by or for
          any brother, sister, spouse, ancestor or lineal descendent of such key
          employee, or by or for any corporation,  partnership,  estate or trust
          of which such key employee is a shareholder,  partner or beneficiary),
          the  purchase  price per share of Common  Stock  deliverable  upon the
          exercise of each Incentive Stock Option shall not be less than 110% of
          the Fair Market  Value of the  Company's  Common Stock on the date the
          Incentive Stock Option is granted.  A Stock Option may be exercised in
          whole or in installments,  which may be cumulative. The price at which
          shares of Common Stock may be purchased  under a Stock Option shall be
          paid in full at the time of the exercise, in either cash or such other
          methods  as  provided  by the  Committee  at the  time of  grant or as
          provided in the form of  agreement  approved in  accordance  herewith,
          including  tendering (either actually or by attestation)  Common Stock
          at Fair  Market  Value on the date of  surrender,  or any  combination
          thereof.

     (b)  "Limited  Right" - means the right to  receive an amount of cash based
          upon the terms set forth in Section 12.

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     (c)  "Reload Option" - means an additional Stock Option granted pursuant to
          Section 13.

     (d)  "Dividend  Equivalent Right" - means the right to receive an amount of
          cash based upon the terms set forth in Section 14 hereof.

     (e)  "Stock  Award" - means  an  award  under  the  Plan,  made in stock or
          denominated  in units of stock.  All or part of any Stock Award may be
          subject to conditions  established by the Committee,  and set forth in
          the  award  agreement,  which may  include,  but are not  limited  to,
          continuous service with the Company,  achievement of specific business
          objectives,  and other  measurements  of individual,  business unit or
          Company performance.

     8.  DEFERRALS  AND  SETTLEMENTS.  Payment  of awards  may be in the form of
Common Stock or other  awards,  or in the case of Limited  Rights,  cash,  or in
combinations  thereof as the Committee determines at the time of grant, and with
such  restrictions  as it  may  impose.  No  Stock  Option  is to be  considered
exercised until payment in full is accepted by the Committee. The means by which
a recipient of an award may make payment is set forth below.

     (a)  Cash Payment.  The exercise  price may be paid in cash or by certified
          check. To the extent permitted by law, the Committee may permit all or
          a  portion  of the  exercise  price of a Stock  Option to be paid from
          borrowed funds.

     (b)  Cashless Exercise.  Subject to vesting requirements,  if applicable, a
          participant  may engage in a "cashless  exercise" of the Stock Option.
          Upon a cashless  exercise,  the  participant  shall  give the  Company
          written  notice of the exercise of the Stock Option  together  with an
          order to a registered broker-dealer or equivalent third party, to sell
          part or all of the Common  Stock  subject  to the Stock  Option and to
          deliver  enough of the proceeds to the Company to pay the Stock Option
          exercise  price  and  any  applicable   withholding   taxes.   If  the
          participant does not sell the Common Stock subject to the Stock Option
          through a registered  broker-dealer  or  equivalent  third party,  the
          participant may give the Company written notice of the exercise of the
          Stock Option and the third-party purchaser of the Common Stock subject
          to the Stock  Option shall pay the Stock  Option  exercise  price plus
          applicable withholding taxes to the Company.

     (c)  Exchange of Common  Stock.  The  Committee  may permit  payment of the
          Stock Option  exercise  price by the tendering of previously  acquired
          shares of Common Stock. All shares of Common Stock tendered in payment
          of the  exercise  price of a Stock  Option shall be valued at the Fair
          Market Value of the Common Stock.  No tendered  shares of Common Stock
          which were acquired by the  participant  upon the prior  exercise of a
          Stock  Option or as awards  under this or any other  stock  award plan
          sponsored by the Company  shall be accepted  for  exchange  unless the
          participant has held such shares (without restrictions imposed by said
          plan or award) for at least six months prior to the exchange.

     9. FAIR MARKET VALUE.  "Fair Market Value" for all purposes  under the Plan
shall mean the reported  closing price of Common Stock as reported by the Nasdaq
stock  market  on  such  date  (as  reported  in The  Wall  Street  Journal,  if
published),  or if the Common  Stock was not  traded on such  date,  on the next
preceding day on which Common Stock was traded  thereon.  If the Common Stock is
not  reported  on the Nasdaq  stock  market,  Fair  Market  Value shall mean the
average sale price of all shares of Common  Stock sold during the 30-day  period
immediately preceding the date on which such stock option was granted, and if no
shares of stock have been sold within such 30-day period, the average sale price
of the  last  three  sales  of  Common  Stock  sold  during  the  90-day  period
immediately  preceding  the date on which such stock option was granted.  In the
event Fair Market Value cannot be determined in the manner described above, then
Fair  Market  Value shall be  determined  by the  Committee.  The  Committee  is
authorized, but is not required, to obtain an independent appraisal to determine
the Fair Market Value of the Common Stock.

     Under no  circumstances  shall Fair Market Value be less than the par value
of the Common Stock.

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     10.  TRANSFERABILITY AND  EXERCISABILITY.  All awards under the Plan, other
than  Non-Statutory  Stock  Options,  will be  nontransferable  and shall not be
assignable,  alienable,  saleable or otherwise  transferable  by the participant
other than by will or the laws of descent and distribution, except pursuant to a
domestic  relations  order  entered by a court of competent  jurisdiction  or as
otherwise determined by the Committee.

     If so permitted by the Committee, a participant may designate a beneficiary
or beneficiaries  to exercise his rights under any Stock Option,  Reload Option,
Limited Right or Dividend  Equivalent Right who would be entitled to and receive
any distributions under the Plan upon the participant's  death.  However, in the
case of  participants  who are subject to Section 16 of the Securities  Exchange
Act 1934 (the "1934  Act"),  any contrary  requirements  of Rule 16b-3 under the
1934 Act, or any  successor  rule,  shall  prevail over the  provisions  of this
Section.

     Awards  granted  pursuant  to the Plan  may be  exercisable  pursuant  to a
vesting schedule as determined by the Committee.  The Committee may, in its sole
discretion,  accelerate  or extend the time during which any Stock Option may be
exercised, or any Stock Award may vest, in whole or in part, provided,  however,
that with respect to an Incentive  Stock Option,  it must be consistent with the
terms of Section 422 of the Code in order to continue to qualify as an Incentive
Stock Option.  Notwithstanding the above, in the event of Retirement (as defined
in Section 26 hereof),  death or  Disability  (as defined in Section 26 hereof),
all awards shall immediately vest.

     11. AWARD AGREEMENTS.  Each award of Stock Options, Reload Options, Limited
Rights,  Dividend  Equivalent  Rights  and Stock  Award  under the Plan shall be
evidenced by an agreement that is approved by the Committee.  The agreement must
set forth the terms,  conditions and  limitations to an award and the provisions
applicable  in the  event the  participant's  employment  terminates,  provided,
however,  in no event  shall the term of any  Incentive  Stock  Option  exceed a
period of ten years from the date of its grant. If any key employee, at the time
an Incentive Stock Option is granted to him/her,  owns stock  representing  more
than 10% of the  total  combined  voting  power of all  classes  of stock of the
Company or its Affiliate (or, under Section 424(d) of the Code, is deemed to own
stock  representing  more than 10% of the  total  combined  voting  power of all
classes of stock, by reason of the ownership of such classes of stock,  directly
or  indirectly,  by or for any  brother,  sister,  spouse,  ancestor  or  lineal
descendent  of such key  employee,  or by or for any  corporation,  partnership,
estate  or  trust of  which  such key  employee  is a  shareholder,  partner  or
beneficiary),  the  Incentive  Stock  Option  granted  to  him/her  shall not be
exercisable after the expiration of five years from the date of grant.

     In  addition,  to the  extent  required  by  Section  422 of the Code,  the
aggregate  Fair Market Value  (determined  at the time the option is granted) of
the Common Stock for which Incentive Stock Options are exercisable for the first
time by a  participant  during any calendar year (under all plans of the Company
and  its  Affiliates)  shall  not  exceed  $100,000.  In the  event  the  amount
exercisable shall exceed $100,000, the first $100,000 of Incentive Stock Options
(determined  as of the date of grant) shall be  exercisable  as Incentive  Stock
Options and any excess shall be exercisable as Non-Statutory Stock Options.

     12. LIMITED RIGHTS. The Committee may grant a Limited Right  simultaneously
with the grant of any Stock  Option,  with  respect to all or some of the shares
covered by such option. Limited Rights granted under the Plan are subject to the
following terms and conditions:

     (a)  Terms of Limited  Rights.  A Limited Right shall not be exercisable in
          whole or in part before the  expiration of six months from the date of
          grant of the Limited  Right.  A Limited Right may be exercised only in
          the event of a Change in Control of the Company or the Association.

          The Limited  Right may be  exercised  only when the  underlying  Stock
          Option is  eligible  to be  exercised;  provided  that the Fair Market
          Value of the underlying  shares on the day of exercise is greater than
          the exercise price of the related Stock Option.

          Upon exercise of a Limited Right, the related Stock Option shall cease
          to be exercisable. Upon exercise or termination of a Stock Option, any
          related Limited Rights shall  terminate.  The Limited Right may be for
          no more than 100% of the difference between the exercise price and the
          Fair Market Value of the Common Stock subject to the underlying  Stock
          Option.  The Limited Right is  transferable  only when the  underlying
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     (b)  Payment.  Upon exercise of a Limited Right,  the holder shall promptly
          receive  from the  Company  an  amount of cash  equal to the  positive
          difference  between the Fair Market  Value on the date of grant of the
          related  Stock  Option  and the Fair  Market  Value of the  underlying
          shares on the date the Limited Right is  exercised,  multiplied by the
          number of shares  with  respect to which such  Limited  Right is being
          exercised.   In  the   event  of  a  merger   transaction   where  the
          consideration  being  paid  by  the  acquiror  is in the  form  of the
          acquiror's common stock, the Limited Right shall be exercisable solely
          for shares of the acquiring  corporation or its parent, as applicable.
          The number of shares to be  received on the  exercise of such  Limited
          Right shall be  determined  by dividing  the amount of cash that would
          have been available  under the first sentence above by the Fair Market
          Value at the time of  exercise  of the  shares  underlying  the option
          subject to the Limited Right.

     13. RELOAD OPTION.  Simultaneously  with the grant of any Stock Option to a
participant, the Committee may grant a Reload Option with respect to all or some
of the shares covered by such Stock Option.  A Reload Option may be granted to a
participant  who satisfies all or part of the exercise price of the Stock Option
with shares of Common Stock.  The Reload Option  represents an additional  Stock
Option  to  acquire  the same  number of  shares  of  Common  Stock  used by the
participant  to pay for the original  Stock Option.  Reload  Options may also be
granted to  replace  Common  Stock  withheld  by the  Company  for  payment of a
participant's  withholding  tax under  Section 16. A Reload Option is subject to
all of the same terms and conditions as the original Stock Option, including the
remaining option exercise term, except that (i) the exercise price of the shares
of Common Stock  subject to the Reload Option will be determined at the time the
original Stock Option is exercised,  and (ii) such Reload Option will conform to
all provisions of the Plan at the time the original option is exercised.

     14. DIVIDEND EQUIVALENT RIGHTS.  Simultaneously with the grant of any Stock
Option to a  participant,  the Committee may grant a Dividend  Equivalent  Right
with respect to all or some of the shares covered by such Stock Option. Dividend
Equivalent Rights granted under this Plan are subject to the following terms and
conditions:

     (a)  Terms  of  Rights.   The  Dividend   Equivalent   Right  provides  the
          participant  with a cash  benefit per share for each share  underlying
          the  unexercised  portion of the  related  Stock  Option  equal to the
          amount of any  extraordinary  dividend  (as defined in Section 14 (c))
          per share of  Common  Stock  declared  by the  Company.  The terms and
          conditions of any Dividend  Equivalent Right shall be evidenced in the
          option  agreement  entered  into  with the  participant  and  shall be
          subject  to the  terms  and  conditions  of  the  Plan.  The  Dividend
          Equivalent  Right is  transferable  only  when the  related  option is
          transferable and under the same conditions.

     (b)  Payment.   Upon  the  payment  of  an  extraordinary   dividend,   the
          participant  holding a Dividend Equivalent Right with respect to Stock
          Options or portions  thereof which have vested shall promptly  receive
          from the Company or its Affiliate,  as applicable,  the amount of cash
          equal  to the  difference  between  the  amount  of the  extraordinary
          dividend per share of Common Stock and the average  dividend per share
          of Common  Stock  based on the current and  preceding  three  quarters
          (assuming  dividends were paid in each quarter,  and if not then based
          on the  average of the  quarters  in the last four  quarters  in which
          dividends  were  paid),  multiplied  by the number of shares of Common
          Stock underlying the unexercised  portion of the related Stock Option.
          With  respect to Stock  Options  or  portions  thereof  which have not
          vested,  the  amount  that would have been  received  pursuant  to the
          Dividend  Equivalent Right with respect to the shares  underlying such
          unvested  Stock  Option  or  portion  thereof  shall  be  paid  to the
          participant  holding such  Dividend  Equivalent  Right  together  with
          earnings thereon,  on such date as the Stock Option or portion thereof
          becomes vested. Payment of an extraordinary dividend will be decreased
          by the amount of any applicable tax withholding  prior to distribution
          to the participant as set forth in Section 16.

     (c)  Extraordinary   Dividend.   For   purposes  of  this  Section  14,  an
          extraordinary  dividend is any cash  dividend paid on shares of Common
          Stock where (i) the dividend  rate  exceeds 200% of the  Association's
          weighted average cost of funds on interest-bearing liabilities for the
          current quarter and preceding three quarters,  and (ii) the annualized
          aggregate dollar amount of the dividend exceeds the  Association's net
          income  after  taxes  for the  current  quarter  and  preceding  three
          quarters.  For purposes of this  Section 14, the dividend  rate equals

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          the quotient,  expressed as a percentage, of (i) the annualized dollar
          amount of the dividend, and (ii) the last trade price of the Company's
          Common Stock on the day immediately before the dividend is declared.

     15. PLAN AMENDMENT. The Board or the Committee may modify or amend the Plan
as it deems necessary or appropriate or modify or amend an award received by key
employees and/or outside directors. No such amendment shall adversely affect any
outstanding awards under the Plan without the consent of the holders thereof.

     16. TAX WITHHOLDING. The Company may deduct from any settlement of an award
made under the Plan,  including  the  delivery  or vesting of shares,  an amount
sufficient  to cover the minimum  withholding  required by law for any  federal,
state or local taxes or to take such other action as may be necessary to satisfy
any such withholding obligations.  The Committee may permit shares to be used to
satisfy the minimum  required tax withholding and such shares shall be valued at
the Fair Market Value as of the settlement date of the applicable award.

     17. OTHER COMPANY BENEFIT AND COMPENSATION PROGRAMS.  Settlements of awards
received  by  participants  under  the  Plan  shall  not be  deemed  a part of a
participant's  regular,  recurring  compensation  for  purposes  of  calculating
payments  or  benefits  from any  Company  benefit  plan,  severance  program or
severance pay law of any country,  unless otherwise determined by the Committee,
or unless the contrary is  specifically  provided in a Company benefit plan that
is exempt from tax under Section 401(a) of the Code.

     18. UNFUNDED PLAN. Unless otherwise  determined by the Committee,  the Plan
is an unfunded  plan.  The Plan shall not create (or be  construed  to create) a
trust or a separate  fund or funds.  The Plan shall not  establish any fiduciary
relationship  between the Company and any  participant  or other person.  To the
extent any person holds any rights by virtue of a grant  awarded under the Plan,
such right (unless  otherwise  determined by the Committee)  shall be no greater
than the right of an unsecured general creditor of the Company.

     19. FUTURE RIGHTS. No person shall have any claim or right to be granted an
award under the Plan, and no participant  shall have any rights by reason of the
grant of any award under the Plan to continued  employment by the Company or any
subsidiary of the Company.

     20.  GENERAL  RESTRICTION.  Each award shall be subject to the  requirement
that, if at any time the Committee shall determine, in its sole discretion, that
the listing,  registration or qualification of any award under the Plan upon any
securities  exchange  or under any  state or  federal  law,  or the  consent  or
approval of any  government  regulatory  body,  is  necessary  or desirable as a
condition of, or in connection  with, the granting of such award or the grant or
settlement  thereof,  such award may not be  exercised or settled in whole or in
part unless such listing, registration, qualification, consent or approval shall
have been  effected or obtained  free of any  conditions  not  acceptable to the
Committee.

     21.  GOVERNING LAW. The validity,  construction  and effect of the Plan and
any actions taken or relating to the Plan shall be determined in accordance with
the laws of the State of Delaware.

     22. SUCCESSORS AND ASSIGNS. The Plan shall be binding on all successors and
permitted assigns of a participant,  including, without limitation, the guardian
or estate of such participant and the executor, administrator or trustee of such
estate,  or any  receiver  or trustee in  bankruptcy  or  representative  of the
participant's creditors.

     23.  RIGHTS  AS A  SHAREHOLDER.  A  participant  shall  have no rights as a
shareholder  with  respect to awards  under the Plan until he or she becomes the
holder of record of shares granted under the Plan.

     24.  CHANGE IN CONTROL.  Notwithstanding  anything  to the  contrary in the
Plan, the following shall apply to all outstanding awards granted under the Plan
in the event of a Change in Control:

     (a)  Definition.  A "Change in Control" of the  Association  or the Company
          means a change in control of a nature  that:  (i) would be required to
          be reported  in  response  to Item 1(a) of the current  report on Form
          8-K, as in effect on the date hereof,  pursuant to Section 13 or 15(d)

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          of the Securities  Exchange Act of 1934 (the "Exchange  Act"); or (ii)
          results  in a Change in  Control  of the  Association  or the  Company
          within the meaning of the Home Owners' Loan Act, as amended  ("HOLA"),
          and applicable  rules and regulations  promulgated  thereunder,  as in
          effect  at the  time  of the  Change  in  Control;  or  (iii)  without
          limitation  such a Change in Control  shall be deemed to have occurred
          at such  time as (a) any  "person"  (as the  term is used in  Sections
          13(d) and 14(d) of the  Exchange  Act) is or becomes  the  "beneficial
          owner" (as defined in Rule 13d-3 under the Exchange Act),  directly or
          indirectly,  of securities of the Company  representing 25% or more of
          the combined voting power of Company's  outstanding  securities except
          for any  securities  purchased  by the  Association's  employee  stock
          ownership plan or trust;  or (b)  individuals who constitute the Board
          on the date hereof  (the  "Incumbent  Board")  cease for any reason to
          constitute  at least a  majority  thereof,  provided  that any  person
          becoming a director  subsequent to the date hereof whose  election was
          approved  by a  vote  of at  least  three-quarters  of  the  directors
          comprising the Incumbent  Board,  or whose  nomination for election by
          the  Company's  stockholders  was  approved  by  the  same  Nominating
          Committee serving under an Incumbent Board,  shall be, for purposes of
          this  clause  (b),  considered  as  though  he  were a  member  of the
          Incumbent   Board;   or  (c)  a  plan   of   reorganization,   merger,
          consolidation,  sale of all or  substantially  all the  assets  of the
          Association  or the  Company  or  similar  transaction  in  which  the
          Association or Company is not the surviving corporation occurs; or (d)
          a proxy statement soliciting proxies from stockholders of the Company,
          by someone  other than the current  Board of Directors of the Company,
          seeking  stockholder  approval of a plan of reorganization,  merger or
          consolidation  of the Company or similar  transaction with one or more
          corporations as a result of which the outstanding shares of the common
          stock of the  Company  are  exchanged  for or  converted  into cash or
          property  or  securities  not issued by the  Company;  or (e) a tender
          offer is made for 25% or more of the voting  securities of the Company
          and the shareholders  owning  beneficially or of record 25% or more of
          the outstanding  securities of the Company have tendered or offered to
          sell their  shares  pursuant  to such tender  offer and such  tendered
          shares have been accepted by the tender offeror.

     (b)  Acceleration of Vesting and Payment of Limited Rights.

          (1)  Upon the occurrence of an event constituting a Change in Control,
               all Limited  Rights,  Stock  Options,  Stock  Awards or any other
               award  granted  pursuant  to this Plan  outstanding  on such date
               shall become 100% vested.

          (2)  Upon the occurrence of an event  constituting a Change in Control
               involving an exchange of stock,  all Stock  Options  shall become
               options  to  purchase  the  exchanged  stock  at  the  applicable
               exchange ratio (with no change in the aggregate exercise price).

     (c)  Effect of a Change in Control on Stock Option Awards.  In the event of
          a Change in Control,  the  Committee  and the Board of Directors  will
          take one or more of the  following  actions to be  effective as of the
          date of such Change in Control:

          (1)  provide that such Stock Options  shall be assumed,  or equivalent
               stock options shall be substituted  ("Substitute Options") by the
               acquiring or succeeding  corporation  (or an affiliate  thereof),
               provided  that:  (A) any such  Substitute  Options  exchanged for
               Incentive  Stock Options shall meet the  requirements  of Section
               424(a) of the Code, and (B) the shares of stock issuable upon the
               exercise  of such  Substitute  Options  shall  be  registered  in
               accordance  with the  Securities  Act of 1933, as amended  ("1933
               Act") or such securities  shall be exempt from such  registration
               in accordance  with Sections  3(a)(2) or 3(a)(5) of the 1933 Act,
               (collectively,  "Registered Securities"),  or in the alternative,
               if the securities  issuable upon the exercise of such  Substitute
               Options  shall not  constitute  Registered  Securities,  then the
               participant  will  receive  upon  consummation  of the  Change in
               Control a cash payment for each Stock Option surrendered equal to
               the  difference   between  (1)  the  fair  market  value  of  the
               consideration  to be received  for each share of Common  Stock in
               the Change in Control  times the number of shares of Common Stock
               subject to such surrendered Stock Options,  and (2) the aggregate
               exercise price of all such surrendered Stock Options; or

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          (2)  in the  event of a Change  in  Control  transaction  whereby  the
               holders of Common  Stock will receive a cash payment (the "Merger
               Price") for each share of Common Stock exchanged in the Change in
               Control  transaction,  make or provide for a cash  payment to the
               participants equal to the difference between (1) the Merger Price
               times the number of shares of Common Stock  subject to such Stock
               Options held by each  participant (to the extent then exercisable
               at  prices  not in  excess  of the  Merger  Price),  and  (2) the
               aggregate exercise price of all such surrendered Stock Options.

     25.  COMPLIANCE WITH SECTION 16. With respect to persons subject to Section
16 of the 1934 Act, transactions under this Plan are intended to comply with all
applicable conditions of Rule 16b-3 or its successors under the 1934 Act. To the
extent any provisions of the Plan or actions of the Committee fail to so comply,
it shall be deemed  null and void,  to the  extent  permitted  by law and deemed
advisable by the Committee.

     26.  TERMINATION  OF  EMPLOYMENT.  Upon the  termination  of an  employee's
employment for any reason other than Disability,  Retirement, Change in Control,
death  or  Termination  for  Cause,   the  employee's  Stock  Options  shall  be
exercisable,  but only as to those shares that were immediately  purchasable by,
or vested in, such employee at the date of termination,  and such options may be
exercised only for a period of three (3) months following such termination. Upon
the  termination  of  an  employee's   employment  for  any  reason  other  than
Disability,  Retirement,  Change in Control, death or Termination for Cause, all
of the employee's unvested stock awards shall be forfeited. Upon the termination
of an employee's service because of Disability, Retirement, Change in Control or
death,  the  employee's  Stock  Options  shall be  exercisable  as to all shares
whether or not then  exercisable,  and the employee's Stock Awards shall vest as
to all  shares  subject  to an  outstanding  award,  whether  or  not  otherwise
immediately  vested in such employee at the date of termination  and options may
be   exercised   for  a  period  of  five  (5)  years   following   termination.
Notwithstanding  anything to the contrary herein, in no event shall the exercise
period  extend  beyond the  expiration of the Stock Option term. In the event of
termination  of employment  or service for Cause (as defined  herein) all rights
and awards  granted to an employee or director  under the Plan not  exercised or
vested shall expire upon termination.

     No option shall be eligible for  treatment as an Incentive  Stock Option in
the event such option is exercised more than three (3) months following the date
of the employee's  Retirement or termination of employment following a Change in
Control; and provided further, that no option shall be eligible for treatment as
an Incentive  Stock  Option in the event such option is exercised  more than one
year  following  termination  of  employment  due to  Disability,  and  provided
further,  in order to  obtain  Incentive  Stock  Option  treatment  for  options
exercised by heirs or devisees of an optionee,  the  optionee's  death must have
occurred while employed or within three (3) months of termination of employment.

     "Disability"  means,  with respect to an employee,  the permanent and total
inability by reason of mental or physical  infirmity or both,  of an employee to
perform the work  customarily  assigned to him.  Additionally,  a medical doctor
selected or approved by the Board of Directors must advise the Committee that it
is either not possible to determine when such  Disability will terminate or that
it appears  probable that such Disability will be permanent during the remainder
of the employee's lifetime.

     "Retirement"  means, with respect to an employee,  retirement at the normal
or early retirement date set forth in the Association's employee stock ownership
plan,  or as  determined  by the  Board  of  Directors,  or such  other  time as
determined by written resolution of the Committee.

     Termination  "for Cause" means the  termination  upon personal  dishonesty,
willful  misconduct,  any breach of fiduciary  duty involving  personal  profit,
intentional  failure to perform stated duties,  or the willful  violation of any
law, rule or regulation (other than traffic violations or similar offenses) or a
final  cease-and-desist  order,  any of which  results in a material loss to the
Company or an Affiliate.

     27.  TERMINATION  OF  SERVICE  AS A  DIRECTOR.  Upon the  termination  of a
director's service for any reason other than Disability,  Retirement,  Change in
Control,  death or Termination for Cause,  the director's Stock Options shall be
exercisable,  but only as to those shares that were immediately  purchasable by,
or vested in,  such  director  at the date of  termination,  and  options may be
exercised for a period of one (1) year following termination of service, and all
of the  director's  unvested  Stock Awards shall be  forfeited.  In the event of

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termination  of service for Cause (as defined  above) all rights  granted to the
director under the Plan not exercised by or vested in such director shall expire
upon  termination  of service.  Upon the  termination  of a  director's  service
because of Retirement,  Disability,  Change in Control or death,  the director's
Stock  Options  shall  be  exercisable  as to all  shares,  whether  or not then
exercisable, and the director's Stock Awards shall vest as to all shares subject
to an outstanding  award,  whether or not otherwise  immediately  vested in such
director at the date of  termination,  and options may be exercised for a period
of five (5) years  following  such  termination.  In no event shall the exercise
period extend beyond the expiration of the Stock Option term.

     "Disability" means, with respect to an outside director,  the permanent and
total inability by reason of mental or physical infirmity or both, of a director
to carry out the  responsibilities of a director of the Company or an Affiliate,
as required by applicable state and federal law.

     "Retirement"  means,  with  respect to a director,  retirement  on or after
attainment of age  sixty-five  (65) or seven (7) years of service at the Company
or an Affiliate,  or such other time as determined by written  resolution of the
Committee.

     "Termination  for Cause" has the same meaning as set forth under  Paragraph
26 above.

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                                 REVOCABLE PROXY

                           Sound Federal Bancorp, Inc.
                         SPECIAL MEETING OF STOCKHOLDERS
                                February 4, 2004

     The  undersigned  hereby  appoints the full Board of  Directors,  with full
powers of  substitution  to act as attorneys and proxies for the  undersigned to
vote all  shares  of  common  stock of Sound  Federal  Bancorp,  Inc.  which the
undersigned is entitled to vote at a Special Meeting of Stockholders ("Meeting")
to be held at the Company's  corporate offices at 1311 Mamaroneck Avenue,  White
Plains,  New York 10605,  at 3:00 p.m.,  (local  time) on February 4, 2004.  The
official  proxy  committee  is  authorized  to  cast  all  votes  to  which  the
undersigned is entitled as follows:



                                                    FOR     AGAINST    ABSTAIN
1. Approval of the Sound Federal Bancorp, Inc.
       2004 Incentive Stock Benefit Plan.           [ ]      [  ]         [ ]


The Board of Directors recommends a vote "FOR" the listed proposal.

THIS PROXY WILL BE VOTED AS DIRECTED, BUT IF NO INSTRUCTIONS ARE SPECIFIED, THIS
PROXY WILL BE VOTED FOR THE  PROPOSITION  STATED ABOVE. IF ANY OTHER BUSINESS IS
PRESENTED AT SUCH MEETING,  THIS PROXY WILL BE VOTED BY THE ABOVE-NAMED  PROXIES
AT THE DIRECTION OF A MAJORITY OF THE BOARD OF  DIRECTORS.  AT THE PRESENT TIME,
THE  BOARD OF  DIRECTORS  KNOWS  OF NO OTHER  BUSINESS  TO BE  PRESENTED  AT THE
MEETING.







                THIS PROXY IS SOLICITED BY THE BOARD OF DIRECTORS


     Should the  undersigned  be present  and elect to vote at the Meeting or at
any adjournment thereof and after notification to the Secretary of Sound Federal
Bancorp,  Inc. at the Meeting of the  stockholder's  decision to terminate  this
proxy,  then the power of said attorneys and proxies shall be deemed  terminated
and of no  further  force or  effect.  This proxy may also be revoked by sending
written  notice to the Secretary of Sound Federal  Bancorp,  Inc. at the address
set forth on the Notice of Special Meeting of Stockholders,  or by the filing of
a later proxy statement prior to a vote being taken on a particular  proposal at
the Meeting.

     The undersigned acknowledges receipt from Sound Federal Bancorp, Inc. prior
to the  execution  of this  proxy of a Notice  of  Special  Meeting  and a proxy
statement dated January 2, 2004.

                                                 Dated: _________________, 2004
                                     [ ] Check Box if You Plan to Attend Meeting



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shares are held jointly, each holder should sign.





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