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                               EXHIBIT 10.3(J)
                   KEY EMPLOYEE CHANGE IN CONTROL AGREEMENT

     THIS AGREEMENT is made and entered into as of the ___ day of __________,
199_, by and between FIRST AMERICAN CORPORATION (the "Company") and __________
("Employee").

                             W I T N E S S E T H:

     WHEREAS, Employee has rendered valuable services to the Company or its
subsidiaries in various executive capacities; and

     WHEREAS, the Company wants to induce Employee to remain in Employee's
current employment and to retain Employee's objectivity during circumstances
relating to potential changes in control by providing Employee a measure of
security; and

     WHEREAS, the Company wants to continue to have the benefits of the
Employee's full time and attention directed to the affairs of the Company
and/or its subsidiaries without the diversion due to concerns about a possible
change in control; and

     WHEREAS, the Company wants to position itself to attract and retain able
managers  and to ensure the continuity of management by adopting compensation
practices competitive with peer companies by providing similar severance
benefits consistent with its policy of competitive employment and compensation
practices.

     NOW THEREFORE, in consideration of the premises and other good and
valuable consideration, receipt whereof being hereby acknowledged, the Company
and Employee agree as follows:

     1.       SUPPLEMENTAL EMPLOYMENT BENEFIT.  In the event that Employee is
employed by the Company at the time of a Change in Control or Potential Change
in Control (as hereinafter defined), Employee will be entitled to the
supplemental employment benefits hereinafter provided if Employee's employment
with the Company terminates within two (2) years after a Change in Control or
Potential Change in Control has occurred,
      (a)  involuntarily, other than an involuntary termination for
           cause or  as the result of death or disability;
      (b)  voluntarily, following
           (i)   any reduction in Employee's (a) base salary from
                 the level immediately preceding the Change in Control or
                 Potential Change in Control, or (b) annual bonus opportunity
                 available immediately preceding the Change in Control or
                 Potential Change in Control;
            (ii) any relocation to which Employee has not agreed
                 to an office of the Company more than thirty-five (35) miles
                 from the office where Employee was located at the time of the
                 Change in Control or Potential Change in Control or any 
                 increase in Employee's required travel amounting to a 
                 constructive relocation;

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            (iii) any material reduction in the level of responsibility, 
                 position (including status, office, title, reporting 
                 relationships or working conditions), authority or
                 duties of Employee in existence immediately preceding the
                 Change in Control  or Potential Change in Control or any
                 assignment to Employee of duties inconsistent in any material
                 respect with the highest level of Employee's position,
                 authority, responsibilities or status as in effect during the
                 six (6) months immediately preceding the Change in Control or
                 Potential Change in Control without the prior written consent
                 of Employee, or
            (iv) any material reduction in the aggregate fringe benefits and 
                 perquisites available to Employee immediately preceding the 
                 Change in Control or Potential Change in Control
                 not offset by salary or annual bonus increases, or
      (c)  voluntarily if, following a Change in Control or Potential
           Change in Control, any successor or acquiror of the Company either
           announces that it will not honor or cause the Company to honor the
           terms of this Agreement or, at any time, fails to confirm in writing
           to Employee within fifteen (15) business days of a request by
           Employee that it will honor and will cause the Company to honor the
           terms of this Agreement.

As soon as practicable and in no event more than thirty (30 ) days after such
termination, the Company shall pay to Employee (i) a lump sum equal to the
Severance Payment specified in Section 2, (ii) the amount(s) described in
Section 3, and (iii) any Additional Amount as provided in Section 5.  In the
event of such termination, the Company will provide the Benefits specified in
Section 3 on an uninterrupted basis.

For purposes hereof a termination will be considered to be "for cause" if it
occurs in conjunction with a determination by the Company that Employee has
committed an act of gross negligence or willful misconduct materially injurious
to the Company, gross dereliction of duties after notice to Employee and
failure to correct the deficiencies within a period of thirty (30) days, or
fraud in his or her capacity as an employee of the Company or a subsidiary
thereof.  For purposes of this Agreement, disability will be considered to have
the same meaning as that provided in the Company's long term disability plan
for provision of long term disability benefits and normal retirement age will
have the meaning provided in the Company's Master Retirement Plan.  In the
event that the Company takes the position that a termination has occurred "for
cause," it will so notify Employee in writing at the time of such termination.
If for any reason, or no reason, the Company takes the position that some or
all of the benefits provided hereunder are not due and owing to Employee or
that it will not pay Employee any or all of the benefits provided hereunder,
Employee may (but is not required to) submit the resolution of such dispute to
arbitration as provided herein.  Notwithstanding any dispute regarding this
Agreement, however, the Company will pay to Employee the Severance Payment,
the amount(s) payable under Section 3, and any Additional Amount as specified
in Section 5 and continue to make the Benefits available during the period
specified herein, unless and until it is determined by a court of competent
jurisdiction or by arbitration proceedings pursuant to this Agreement that
Employee is not entitled to all or a portion of the amount(s) paid and/or to 
continuation of the Benefits, at which time Employee will reimburse the 
Company all amounts to which Employee is determined not to be entitled 
(excluding any medical claim paid on behalf of the Employee).

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     2.       AMOUNT OF SEVERANCE PAYMENT.   The Severance Payment will be an
amount equal to the sum of:
     (i)      Employee's annual cash bonus ("Annual Cash Bonus") equal to
              the greater of the actual amount earned by Employee or the target
              amount established by the Company for the full year in which a
              Change in Control or Potential Change in Control occurs;
     (ii)     the product of the Multiplier and Employee's Annual Base
              Salary (as hereinafter defined);  and
     (iii)    the product of the Multiplier and Employee's Annual Cash
              Bonus for the full year in which a Change in Control or Potential
              Change in Control occurs.

     For purposes hereof the Multiplier will be _____ (_).  For purposes
hereof, Employee's Annual Base Salary will be the greater of (i) his or her
salary immediately prior to the Change in Control or Potential Change in
Control, or (ii) his or her salary at the time of termination.

     3. LIFE, MEDICAL AND OTHER BENEFITS.
      (a)  For a period of ____ (_)  years following a termination of
           employment under circumstances entitling Employee to payment of
           Severance Payment (the "Benefit Period"), the Company will make
           available to Employee  the following benefits (the "Benefits"):
            (i)    medical and dental coverage for Employee and Employee's    
                   eligible dependents substantially equivalent to that 
                   provided in the First American Corporation Comprehensive 
                   Employee Benefit Plan (or any successor thereto) at the     
                   optional coverage level chosen by Employee from the options  
                   available under the First American Corporation Cafeteria 
                   Plan as such plans were in effect immediately preceding the
                   Change in Control or Potential Change in Control.  Such 
                   medical and dental coverage will be  provided concurrently 
                   with any available health plan continuation rights under 
                   Section 4980B of the Internal Revenue Code of 1986, as 
                   amended  ("COBRA");  
            (ii)   long-term disability protection substantially
                   equivalent to that provided in the First American Corporation
                   Comprehensive Employee Benefit Plan (or any successor
                   thereto) as if Employee had elected cost-of-living adjustment
                   protection under the First American Corporation Cafeteria
                   Plan as such Plans were in effect immediately preceding the
                   Change in Control or Potential Change in Control; and
            (iii)  life insurance equivalent in an amount to that
                   provided under the life insurance coverage in effect for
                   Employee and Employee's eligible dependents immediately
                   preceding the Change in Control.

      Such Benefits for Employee during the Benefit Period may, at the
      discretion of the Company, be provided through any employee benefit plan
      maintained by the Company for its employees or former employees through 
      the purchase of insurance or by payments from the general assets of the 
      Company. Employee will be required to pay the following amounts for the 
      Benefits:
            (iv)   Employee will, on a periodic basis, pay to the Company
                   for medical and dental coverage the premium charged by the
                   Company from time to time for
                    
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                   substantially similar coverage under COBRA (or any
                   other mandatory health care continuation laws then in
                   effect); provided, however, that the Company will, at the
                   time of the payment of the Severance Payment, pay Employee a
                   lump sum amount equal to (A) the difference between the total
                   COBRA premiums for the full term of the Benefit period and
                   the total participant contributions that would be required by
                   the Company for similar coverage of an active employee for
                   the same period (based on COBRA premium and contribution
                   levels in effect at the time such lump sum payment is made)
                   plus (B) a supplemental amount equal to expected federal,
                   state and local income taxes on such amount (and taxes on the
                   supplemental amount provided for by this clause (iv)(B));
    
            (v)    Employee will make no payment for long-term
                   disability coverage; and

            (vi)   Employee will pay for life insurance coverage at
                   the rate or rates charged by the Company for such coverage 
                   for similarly situated active employees.

      Notwithstanding the foregoing, Employee's rights to any of the  Benefits  
      will terminate on the earliest to occur of the date for which Employee
      becomes covered for substantially similar benefits on substantially
      similar terms through a program of a subsequent employer or otherwise
      (such as through coverage obtained by Employee's spouse) except with
      respect to which such coverage imposes pre-existing conditions or waiting
      periods with respect to Employee or Employee's dependents covered by the
      Company's medical or dental coverage or the date Employee fails to make
      premium contributions on a timely basis, or the date Employee cancels such
      coverage; provided, however, that Employee shall not be required to
      reimburse the lump sum amount provided in Section 3(a)(iv).

      (b)     In addition, upon the occurrence of a Change in Control or
              Potential Change in Control, the Company will provide Employee 
              with ndividual executive professional out placement services and
              tax preparation assistance (such tax preparation assistance not to
              exceed $2,500 per annum or such greater amount as may be 
              established prior thereto by the Board of Directors of the 
              Company) for a period f two years following any such occurrence.

        4.    ACKNOWLEDGMENT.   It is acknowledged that all amounts payable
hereunder, together with all other amounts payable to Employee upon or in
connection with a Change in Control or Potential Change in Control are
reasonable compensation for Employee's service to the Company and its
subsidiaries.

        5.    ADDITIONAL AMOUNT.        
        (a)   The Company will pay to Employee an amount (the "Additional 
              Amount") equal to the excise tax under the Code, if
              any, incurred by Employee by reason of the payments under this
              Agreement and any other plan, agreement or understanding between
              Employee and the Company or its parent, subsidiaries or affiliates
              (collectively, "Separation Payments") constituting excess
              parachute payments pursuant to Code Section 280G (or any successor
              provision thereof), plus all excise
        

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              taxes and federal, state and local income taxes incurred by       
              Employee with respect to receipt of the Additional Amount.

              (b)  All determinations required to be made under this Section 5, 
              including whether an Additional Amount is required and the amount
              of any Additional Amount, will be made by the  independent
              auditors engaged by the Company immediately prior to the Change in
              Control or Potential Change in Control (the "Accounting Firm"),
              which will provide detailed supporting calculations to the Company
              and Employee.  In computing taxes, the Accounting Firm will use
              the highest marginal federal, state and local income tax rates
              applicable to Employee and will assume the full deductibility of
              state and local income taxes for purposes of computing federal
              income tax liability, unless Employee demonstrates that he or she
              will not in fact be entitled to such a deduction for the year of
              payment. 

              (c)  The Additional Amount, computed assuming all of the
              Separation Payments constitute excess parachute payments as
              defined in Code Section 280G (or any successor provision thereof),
              will be paid to Employee with the Severance Payment unless the
              Company at the same time as the payment of the Severance Payment
              provides Employee with an opinion of the Accounting Firm that
              Employee will not incur an excise tax on part or all of the
              Separation Payments. Any such opinion will be based upon the
              applicable regulations under Code Sections 280G and 4999 (or any
              successor provisions thereof) or substantial authority within the
              meaning of Code Section 6662.  If such opinion applies only to
              part of the Separation Payments, the Company will pay Employee the
              Additional Amount with respect to that part of the Separation
              Payments not covered by the opinion.

        6.    ARBITRATION.  In the event of a dispute regarding the terms
of this Agreement, Employee may elect, in lieu of litigation, to have the
dispute decided by arbitration.  All arbitrations pursuant to this Agreement
will be determined in accordance with the rules of the American Arbitration
Association then in effect, by a single arbitrator if the parties will agree
upon one, or otherwise by three arbitrators, one appointed by each party, and a
third arbitrator appointed by the two arbitrators selected by the parties, all
arbitrators from a panel proposed by the American Arbitration Association.  If
any party will fail to appoint an arbitrator within thirty (30) days after it is
notified to do so, then the arbitration will be accomplished by the single
arbitrator appointed by the other party.  Unless otherwise agreed in writing by
the parties hereto, all arbitration proceedings will be held in Nashville,
Tennessee.  In the event arbitration is commenced, each party agrees to be bound
by and to comply with any award made in any such proceeding, which will be
final, and to the entry of judgment in accordance with applicable law in any
jurisdiction upon any such award.  The decision of the arbitrators will be
tendered within sixty (60) days of final submission of the parties in writing or
any hearing before the arbitrators and will include their individual votes. If
Employee is entitled to any award pursuant to the determination reached in the
arbitration proceeding that is greater than that proposed by the Company, he or
she will be entitled to payment by the Company of all attorneys' fees, costs
(including expenses of arbitration) and other out of pocket expenses incurred
in connection with the arbitration.

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        7.    CHANGE IN CONTROL. The terms "Change in Control" and "Potential
Change in Control" shall have the meanings ascribed to them in the First
American Corporation 1991 Employee Stock Incentive Plan.

        8.    OTHER EMPLOYEE BENEFITS.  The benefits hereunder will not be
affected by or reduced because of any other benefits to which Employee may be
entitled by reason of his or her continuing employment with the Company or the
of termination of his or her employment with the Company, and no other such
benefit by reason of such employment shall be so affected or reduced because of
the benefits bestowed by this Agreement except as hereinafter specifically
provided.  Employee will not be entitled to duplicative health, medical, life,
disability and other insurance benefits or to severance payments specifically
made only with respect to termination of employment under any employment,
retention or severance pay agreement, plan or other arrangement.  In addition,
the payment of benefits to Employee under this Agreement will not entitle
Employee to payments under the other plans or arrangements providing such
benefits except to the extent such other plans or arrangements provide
additional benefits to those provided herein.

        9.    WITHHOLDING; SET-OFF.  All amounts payable by the Company
hereunder will be subject to withholding of such amounts related to taxes as
the Company may be legally obligated to withhold.  The right of Employee to
receive benefits under this Agreement, however, will be absolute and will not
be subject to any set-off, counterclaim, recoupment, defense, duty to mitigate
or other rights the Company may have against Employee or anyone else.

     10.      SUBSEQUENT EMPLOYMENT.  Employee's right to receive benefits under
this Agreement shall not be reduced by reason of Employee's employment with any
other employer after terminating employment with the Company (except as may
relate to the continuation of Benefits as set forth in Section 3).  Any
compensation for services rendered or consulting fees earned after the date of
termination will not diminish Employee's right to receive all amounts due
hereunder.

     11.      EMPLOYEE'S INDEMNITY.  Employee will be entitled to the benefits
of the indemnity provided by the Company's charter, bylaws or otherwise
immediately prior to the Change in Control or Potential Change in Control, and
any subsequent changes to the charter, bylaws, or other indemnity provisions
reducing the indemnity granted to officers will not affect the rights granted
hereunder.  The Company may not reduce these indemnity benefits confirmed to
Employee hereunder without the prior written consent of Employee.

     12.      COSTS OF ENFORCEMENT; INTEREST.  Subject to the provisions of 
Section 6, in the event Employee collects any part or all of the Severance 
Payments, Benefits, or the Additional Amount or otherwise enforces the terms of
this Agreement following a dispute with the Company regarding the terms of this
Agreement, the Company will pay all costs of such collection or enforcement,
including reasonable legal fees and other out-of-pocket expenses reasonably
incurred by Employee.  In addition, the Company will pay to Employee interest
on all or any part of the Severance Payments, the Additional Amount or costs
incurred by Employee as a result of the Company's failure to continue the
Benefits that are not paid or continued when due at a rate equal to the Index
Rate as announced by First American National Bank or its successors from time
to time.

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     13.      TERM.  The terms of this Agreement may be terminated or   
amended  by the Company at any time upon thirty (30) days notice to Employee
prior to  the first to occur of (i) a Change in Control or Potential Change in
Control, (ii) the public announcement of a proposal for a transaction that, if
consummated, would constitute a Change in Control or Potential Change in
Control, or (iii) the Board of Directors of the Company becomes aware of a
proposal for a transaction that, if consummated, would constitute a Change in
Control or Potential Change in Control.  Upon the occurrence of any of the
foregoing events, this Agreement will continue as in effect at such time
without termination or further change by Company until the earlier of (a) two
years following any Change in Control or Potential Change in Control, or (b)
the final withdrawal or termination of a proposal that, had it been
consummated, would have constituted a Change in Control or Potential Change in
Control, at which time this Agreement may, once again, be amended or terminated
by Company upon thirty (30) days notice to Employee until one of the events in
(i), (ii) or (iii) occurs.  Notwithstanding the foregoing, in the event of a
Change in Control or Potential Change in Control, upon Employee's termination
of employment entitling Employee to benefits hereunder, this Agreement may not
be amended or terminated by the Company until all of the Company's obligations
and liabilities hereunder are satisfied.  For purposes of this Agreement,
Employee's base salary, bonus and bonus opportunity and benefits and
perquisites, and  Employee's indemnity rights immediately prior to an event
causing this Agreement to be non-amendable by the Company alone will be
considered to be Employee's base salary, bonus, and bonus opportunity or
benefits and perquisites or indemnity rights immediately prior to the Change in
Control or Potential Change in Control if such salary, bonus, and bonus
opportunity or benefits and perquisites or indemnity prior to the event is
greater.  In addition, action that would be described in Section 1(b)(ii) or
(iii) if occurring following a Change in Control or Potential Change in Control
will be considered to have so occurred if occurring following an event causing
this Agreement to become non-amendable if there ultimately is a Change in
Control or Potential Change in Control.

     14.      NOTICES.  Notices, which must be in writing, will be considered
effective upon receipt and will be sent to the Company at its headquarters,
attention Chief Executive Officer, or to Employee at the address set forth
below.  Either party may notify the other of any change in the address for
notice.

     15.      GOVERNING LAW.  This Agreement shall be governed by and construed
in accordance with the laws of the State of Tennessee applicable to agreements
made and entirely to be performed therein.

     16.      SUCCESSORS AND ASSIGNS.  This Agreement shall be binding upon and
inure to the benefit of the successors (including any successor to the Company
by reason of any dissolution, merger, consolidation, sale of assets or other 
reorganization of the Company), heirs, personal representatives and assigns of
the parties hereto.

     17. EMPLOYMENT WITH RELATED PARTIES.  Employment with any present or
future parent, subsidiary or affiliated corporation of the Company or any
successor to substantially all of the business of the Company will be
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     18.       NO CONTRACT FOR EMPLOYMENT.  Nothing in this Agreement will be 
deemed to give Employee the right to be retained in the service of the Company 
or to deny the Company any right it may have to discharge, or demote Employee 
at any time.

     19.      SEVERABILITY.  The invalidity and unenforceability of any 
particular provision of this Agreement will not affect any other provision of 
the Agreement and the Agreement will be construed in all respects as if the 
invalid or unenforceable provision were omitted.

     20.      MISCELLANEOUS.  No provisions of this Agreement may be waived or
discharged unless such waiver or discharge is agreed to in writing signed by
Employee and the Company.  No waiver by either party hereto at any time of any
breach by the other party hereto of, or compliance with any condition or
provision of this Agreement to be performed by the other party will be deemed a
waiver of similar or dissimilar provisions or conditions at the same or at any
prior or subsequent time.  No agreements or representations, oral or otherwise,
expressed or implied, with respect to the subject matter hereof have been made
by either party which are not set forth expressly in this Agreement.

     21.      HEADINGS.  The headings of the Sections herein are for convenience
only and shall have no significance in the interpretation of this Agreement.

     IN WITNESS WHEREOF, the parties hereto have duly executed this Agreement
as of the date written above.

                                        FIRST AMERICAN CORPORATION       
                                                                         
                                        By:
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                                        Title:
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                                        Attest:                          
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Witness                                 Employee

                                        Address:

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